What You Can Learn From Your Ex

What You Can Learn From Your Ex

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Number2 is offline Number2 Post #91  April 7,2009, 7:14pm
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What I learned: Don't think that giving in to unreasonable demands will make them love you more.
 
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deafandcute is offline deafandcute Post #92  April 8,2009, 9:14pm
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Number2,567800 wrote :

What I learned: Don't think that giving in to unreasonable demands will make them love you more.
I did that. Never again
 
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deafandcute is offline deafandcute Post #93  April 8,2009, 9:16pm
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What I learned: Never take exboyfriendback if you broken up more than 3x.
 
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vicman1970 is offline vicman1970 Post #94  April 12,2009, 3:00am
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I learnd forgiveness! Sometimes it takes a little paine to get ya moving again. Me and my ex have been on and off for years but weve always stayed friends. We always will be that "friends" so something els i've learned is sometimes its better to be that more than anything! If you hold hard feelings then what you had in the friendship will be lost! But if you forgive you can move on to that spical someone!
 
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OzIreland is offline OzIreland Post #95  June 24,2009, 8:58am
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Well how can you forget or get over it when you still have to go through the Courts for the last 7 months, After 11yrs I was happy to move on (No kids) but she has cleared out all assets and still lives in the house.I'm back at my perants. interstate.
 
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UKOK is offline UKOK Post #96  June 25,2009, 2:41pm
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I have learned to allow an ex to leave permanently........if it's not a relationship that has any real future or joy in it.
Also don't tell them you want them back to fulfil a desire that they might change or that you may change when you know you won't.
And as someone mentioned earlier, FORGIVE them even though this may take a few day, months or years.....you will get it there in the end and as you release them you feel so free....AND you can sleep well at night.
Thats how broke free of the past.
But on a positive note something that i have learn't from an ex- is to be a person who is consistent in the things that allow love and peace, joy and some fun to come into the relationship, he was.
 
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Gutierrez22 is offline Gutierrez22 Post #97  July 3,2009, 12:18pm
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I do believe that you do learn from your mistakes with your ex. Ive gone through infidelity,lying,cheating,irresponsibility,immatur ity,and never leaving his ex alone in the first place, I rushed though things with this last relationship of mine. Perhaps an older man is for me? I dont really know, I am just looking to see what is out there,I just hope that that one guy can prove to me that guys arent all the same.
 
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qqtpie is offline qqtpie Post #98  July 3,2009, 6:26pm
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If I ran into the same problem with the next guy, it's my problem. If the problem went away, it was his problem

My divorce helped me grow, so much, as a person. Looking at yourself with a critical eye isn't always easy. It is always rewarding to be able to get rid of problems because you fix an issue.
 
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Sherita1981 is offline Sherita1981 Post #99  November 1,2009, 8:58am
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I certainly learned that I need to listen to my gut. I started dating in my mid 20's, and I'm still learning. Usually, my gut is right!
 
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misswright is offline misswright Post #100  November 24,2009, 4:26pm

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SAY I LEARN A GREAT DEAL FROM MY EX'S OVER THE YEAR TO SOME POINT YOU SAY THANKS YOU FOR ALL YOU'VE LEARN THAT WHERE THE LONG LIST OF CAN'T STAND .. THEIR SOME MORE THEN OTHER THAT YOU LEARN TO COPE WITH BUT NOT LOWER YOUR STANDARDS TO MET THE OTHERS NEEDS.. I WOULD JUST MOVE ON WHEN I NOTICE ANY THING FROM MY PASS REALATIONSHIP..
 
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