Stop being so deep and meaningful already! You are beginning to nauseate me as much as Mr_Right. In all the Right ways, of course, but I'm craving some fun and entertainment. I've had enough of "deep" for today. Ready for some "shallow" right about now...
LOL! That *WAS* the shallow comment!
And fun and entertainment are as close as your nearest joy bucket, milady. Directions:
1. Put your fingers in your ears (to shut out the typing in stereo you might be hearing...)
2. Close your eyes (so you can't see what I'm typing, either)
3. Say "Wootz!!" VERY LOUDLY. (it works for me *grin*)
... And if this doesn't work, I've been told bare nekkid skinny dipping, target practice, meditation, shoe shopping, wood chopping, and trying to keep a straight face when such random silliness is going around works, too... *grin*
Then again you can look closely at the stereotypes and try and take them to their logical conclusions... Okay, I have to admit, those are good for a laugh. I can't but think of me rejecting a woman because she is "too successful and educated" without peals of laughter... *grin*
Last edited by Wootz; June 26,2009 at 8:01pm.
Reason: *Gwar!* caveman typing with chicken bone, prone to no spell good.
CrystalJourneys had a good point about letting go of stereotypes. But unfortunately with many people that's never going to happen. I have tried to let go of mine, and gotten pretty good at telling myself that I need to talk to and get to know a person before assuming what kind of person they'll be. But I haven't been treated the same way. As a Black female in the dating world, I feel we get the full fury of being stereotyped. Much of it is because of the media. I'm well educated, own my own home, and pretty good at taking care of myself. But some of the men I meet (and I don't mean all - just some) have this picture of what I'm supposed to be - a golddigger, lazy, lots of kids ( I have none), sloppy, loud, uneducated, etc. Women of all races can fall into those categories, but with Black women it seems to be expected.
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Yeah, I have never spoken to a woman like that either.
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