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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  June 23,2009, 2:02pm
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I thought this would be a really interesting topic for discussion.

eHarmony founder Neil Clark Warren is fond of saying that the best way to be attractive to potential dating partners is to have a big fun life when you’re single.

How "big and fun" is YOUR life? How socially active are you? If your life appealing enough that someone would want to become part of it?

If not, do you want to do something about it and if so, what do you think you can do?

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Wootz is offline Wootz Post #2  June 23,2009, 2:46pm
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Interesting question! My own personal life is a small part of a whole lot. Looking at how others here have talked about their lives, mine is anti-social and boring, in comparison. *grin* I am a bookworm and highly prone to woolgathering. I could drone on about the dull minutiae of the small tint shop/truck and auto performance parts shop I worked at, or the static existence of a ring boss in a regional professional wrestling promotion, or the interminable political dynamics of a light industrial plant in an area with an 18% unemployment rate. My social existence rivals that of giant pandas who come down from their hills maybe once in a lifetime to mate… My little life has all the tepid appeal of microwaved oatmeal (no sugar).

All joking aside, I *am* rather anti-social. This leads to an introverted, slightly mental existence which tends to put one in an empty parking lot four blocks west of the "dating pool" if I don’t fix it. While I will never be an energetic social networker, I find that I am more social with people of similar interests. So I am making a point to join games at the pool hall, even though I’m out of practice. I’m calling up old friends and catching up. Talking to random people in checkout lines makes me look crazy, but I’m okay with that. *grin* I’m not quite jumping in with both feet, but I am testing the water.

Eharmony Advice is a good place to practice being social again. I’m enjoying the conversations I take part in here, and I believe I would actually be friends with those on my "friends" list should we ever meet in person. My curiosity driven life is good, and has taken me in some fascinating directions (and I’ve picked up some good books along the way). I believe I can (eventually) attract a mate interested in making a go of it with me- that’s why I am a paying member of eharmony! What about the rest of y’all folks? *grin*
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #3  June 23,2009, 5:12pm
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I'm just going to make it easy on myself here, and largely agree with my friendly professor above

This place can be a lot of fun, as well as a small part of our social life. There are some amazing people around here, and the rest can be taken with a grain of salt, so what's not to like? But real life is out there too, and it helps to keep it in mind. Socializing is enjoyabe and, in my view, the best way to attract a mate, no doubt.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #4  June 23,2009, 5:36pm
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eH_Advice_Admin_Lori wrote :
How socially active are you?

Last weekend I sat on the porch and watched the lawn sprinkler go back … and … forth … back … and ... forth … back … and … forth.

All in all, a pretty busy weekend.
 
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Quote: eHarmony founder Neil Clark Warren is fond of saying that the best way to be attractive to potential dating partners is to have a big fun life when you’re single.



This line of thinking is WRONG! I am now in my 40's, with a full and rich life. It's a thousand times more difficult to find a compatable match now, because they've all been building their own full and complete lives, and it's exponentially more difficult to blend two independent and self sufficient people with full and complete lives.
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D_Lion wrote :
Last weekend I sat on the porch and watched the lawn sprinkler go back … and … forth … back … and ... forth … back … and … forth.

All in all, a pretty busy weekend.
I've heard rumors to the contrary...
 
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There was talk of some naughty-naughty at the whiskey factory... Why do you try hide your big life, D_Lion? Afraid the princesses will find out about each other?
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #8  June 23,2009, 7:14pm
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Whiskey factory? We have a Cheesecake Factory, but not a whiskey factory...that sounds like more fun.
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #9  June 24,2009, 4:43am
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Watching the lawn sprinkler in the 'rainy and grey' State of his location?
Last edited by meri75; June 24,2009 at 4:46am. Reason: Being awake 21 hrs consecutively causes one's brain to overheat and go on the blink ...
 
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It seems to see-saw really. I go through periods where my life is all work, work, work - both in the office and at home. Then it stops and suddenly I'm in a whirlwind of social activity.
 
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