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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  June 22,2009, 4:19pm
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I found this article on the eHarmony Labs site and thought it was super interesting in light of the many conversations we have here re: physical attractiveness:

http://www.eharmony.com/labs/blog/20...-beauty-study/

I found it fascinating that women tend to equate their well being with their beauty.

Any thoughts on this?

I would also be interested in seeing similar research done on men and their sense of handsomeness (not sure that's a word but I'm going with it); however, I doubt any such studies have been done. And what does THAT say, if anything?

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You seem to have a good well being.

Post your pic and we'll let you know if it matches.
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I think our well-being is equated w/ the quality and the satisfaction we derive from our relationships w/ ourselves and w/ others. I think that our beauty or our handsomeness has more to do w/ our personality types and our behavior, rather than physical appearance. Yet society and media attempt to define a woman's beauty. Men aren't held to this measure, perhaps b/c they don't buy it, nor do I think they get caught up in this vicious cycle--it's not in their nature. Women do. But even as we were conditioned to, we don't "have" to buy it; we just oftentimes do, in many areas of our lives.
 
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Men are held to a standard of money. And, there is a lot of data correlating a man’s height to his occupational success (also true of women’s weight.)

[COLOR=black]Our appearance is part of how we communicate ourselves to the world. I find it intrinsically worthwhile for that reason, and a way to derive enjoyment from life.
 
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So that's why I'm not retired to the Caribbean being fed grapes by naked island boys.
 
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eH_Advice_Admin_Lori wrote :
I would also be interested in seeing similar research done on men and their sense of handsomeness
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Men aren't held to this measure, perhaps b/c they don't buy it, --it's not in their nature.

Straight guys don't think in terms of handsome-ness.
 
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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pamcam wrote :
So that's why I'm not retired to the Caribbean being fed grapes by naked island boys.
You probably have a better shot than I do--I quit growing in 6th grade.
 
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LOL. What the heck right?
 
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Just to be serious here for a minute, those numbers don't surpise me at all. I have been involved in similar research in the past. Which is why I find it quite disturbing to read so many posts about weight and beauty in women being prerequisites for attraction. Apart from the fact that it's only partially true, we are actually contributing to the low percentages even further.

And just for you guys - most of you report to be happiest when in successful reationships (yes, mostly with those unreasonable, pesky women). If your woman is suffering from low self-esteem and overall well being, how happy is that going to make you feel?

Love you all
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