Women in late 30's/early 40's who say they want kids


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #51  June 22,2009, 8:15pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I work w/ a woman who had been married a decade. During that time, neither she nor her husband wanted children. They changed their minds and had one when she was 39; the next year, she had twins, and a year or two later, she had another baby.

A year later, her husband, whom she had "known" for over a decade, took off to North Carolina to FIND HIMSELF.

I won't repeat what she said.

It took her 5 years to get over feeling so angry. And her kids? Thank God she has a strong support system w/ her mother and sister, b/c honestly, there were times when I didn't think she was going to make it.
That really stinks. When I think of "finding oneself" or "looking for answers" my impression is that in the past women have more often left relationships for these reasons than men....which would be understandable if they were more forced into a societal role they didn't really want when they are young.
 
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That really stinks. When I think of "finding oneself" or "looking for answers" my impression is that in the past women have more often left relationships for these reasons than men....which would be understandable if they were more forced into a societal role they didn't really want when they are young.
yeah, I think I said that when I was 19
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #53  June 22,2009, 8:21pm
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yeah, I think I said that when I was 19
Yes....one would hope that divorces happen less now that people get married at a later age than they did a generation ago. By the age most people get married at now they've generally given up on finding any answers.
 
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Here is an interesting article published online today that talks about the possibilities and risks of pregnancy/childbirth for women in their 40s and above...
 
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What's the link?
 
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What's the link?
If you click on "Here" in my above post you'll get there; here is the direct link, though : Babies After 40: The Hidden Health Risks of Mid-Life Pregnancy - Healthy Living - Health.com
 
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argh. just what I needed! actually the article made me feel a little bit like I have a lot more time...since they kept referring to the over 40 set. But considering no man wants to get married before dating for 7 years....lol...oh and then enjoy being married for a few....I might as well just join a convent now.... wait, Im not catholic...what to do what to do.
 
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argh. just what I needed! actually the article made me feel a little bit like I have a lot more time...since they kept referring to the over 40 set. But considering no man wants to get married before dating for 7 years....lol...oh and then enjoy being married for a few....I might as well just join a convent now.... wait, Im not catholic...what to do what to do.
7 years? What's the rush?
 
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In todays world Men are not a neccessity in creating Children .. However there are an incredible number of very selfish people out there who use others for their own means ..and women are formidable manipulators.. the game is to identify and avoid lifes users....
 
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Fertility does indeed decline significantly and rapidly after age 40 (and is certainly much lower by age 45, with pregnancy risks also being higher). It's not that "no" women have babies after that age, but it's certainly not wise to assume that one will be able to get pregnant and carry a baby to term in one's 40s, especially without fertility treatments.

It would be very rare for a woman in her 50s to have children naturally (most women are post-menopausal by their early 50s and thus infertile). The kind of fertility treatments that would be needed to produce a viable pregnancy at that age would be quite expensive.
Not according to my gynecologist. He said many women are fertile into their fifties. He doesn't recommend it at all because there's an increased risk of genetic disorders, but Harvey is right, many women can still have a baby naturally in their 50s.
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