Why is physical apperance such an issue

do many women tell you that they don't care if you dress like a slob?

No, but I don't dress like a slob so it doesn't come up. Unless you consider not wearing a suit at all times a slob.

It's just like the nice guy thing...

There have been a great many studies conducted on womens preferences regarding well dressed men. They virtually all agree that well dressed men, even if obviously overdressed for the occasion, do much better with women. It didn't matter at all what the venue or the goal. From dive bars to five star restaurants, whether seeking a one night stand or a potential bride, the best dressed did best.

The surveys I refer to are what the women actually did. This is in contrast to what most of the women surveyed said.

The great majority of women actually went out with or to bed with the best dressed men.

because you said "i should stop listening to what women say" yet i don't see anywhere where women stated that what a man wears makes no difference. in fact, St Paul Girl and I said that yes, what a man wears makes a difference.

After I turned 40 I found my weight getting out of my control, or so I felt. For me, my weight is a huge issue. I fight every day to keep it with in my acceptable margin. I know I am not young anymore and my motablisum has changed as well as my activity levels, but I will not give up the battle. I see people all around me that just let it go, men more so than women, and it puzzles me. We hear everyday how we live in an obeas (damn spell check) society. It's not healthy and I want a partner that is healthy. Not someone that looks like a canadate for diabietis or a heart attack. What gets me is how our acceptance for the over weight has affected our children today. I have a 6 year old child that lives next door to me that weighs more than I do. You can't tell me that this is healthy. Sure she's big boned, but no 6 year old should ever weigh more than a hundred pounds and she is far beyond that mark. At 6 years old she is already on the road to a very unhealthy life. So to answer your question, "Why is physical apperance such an issue", I believe people are naturaly attracted to a healthy looking companion. A few extra pounds or even down sized, can be acceptable, but when it starts to look like it could affect their health, it becomes a turn off. There is nothing shallow about wanting a healthy looking partner. For some people the idea of excess weight is as big a turn off as a drunk or a druggy. Not a shallow concept, just practical.

what studies? can you link to them?

we (men and women) are all in agreement. I'm just wondering why you are acting like we aren't. are you misreading posts?

Hey,

I have recently lost alot of weight and all of a sudden have lots of interest from the opposite sex, I'm still the same person and find it funny that a lot of people are so shallow, yes I look great, feel great now but as said I'm still the same person, more of a statement than a question but most men are quite shallow if they can't see past a persons apperance.

Something I have to come to terms with i guess.

Susan