dlc872 is offline dlc872 Post #41  June 11,2010, 6:49am
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Thanks everyone, (esp. icecreammoon and very libra, you two always have something interesting to say, no offense to everyone else). But you're right on the mark; I've come to similar conclusions myself. I am very analytical, and it's hard for me not to be. I'm like a Vulcan, LOL; if it's not logical I don't know how to deal with it (and I've never even watched Star Trek). I have looked into this, and I agree that physical intimacy should be a need, but I've never expressed a desire for it. I'm sure even those analytical folks out there have at the very least been encouraged to be affectionate by growing up around it, but I didn't. It's hard to change that pattern because whether it's uncomfortable or not, it's not something I'm used to.
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I also am not a therapist, but I think it would be a good idea to talk to one about this. Your style of writing and the issue which you describe remind me very much of my 20 year old son, who is an Asperger's kid. I leave you to do some online research, but problems with emotional and physical intimacy are very common with Aspy's as well as a very logical/analytical way of trying to understand interpersonal relationships. Many have a complete blind spot in these areas.

Obviously I can't diagnose you but reading your posts really struck a bell for me and I strongly suggest seeing someone about this.
 
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You did see that this thread is almost a year old, right?

I think Elvis has left the building.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
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You did see that this thread is almost a year old, right?

I think Elvis has left the building.

Ah geeze...everyone who knows me is aware that details and I aren't always well acquainted...
 
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Details?

But hey. If a women were like the OP, wouldnt she be called fridged?
 
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But hey. If a women were like the OP, wouldnt she be called fridged?
No, it would just be my typical dating experience ... and 1/2 my marriage to boot...
 
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