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Men can't stand my spontanous personality. That is the reason.

Do you know your reason(s)?
- May 25th, 2009, 02:47 pm
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I can't bear to deprive all other possible Ladies my excellence.

It just wouldn't be fair.
- May 25th, 2009, 02:55 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
I can't bear to deprive all other possible Ladies my excellence.

It just wouldn't be fair.
lol! nice way of saying you aren't ready to be a one-girl guy.

right now i know i am single because i haven't been looking for a relationship in about a year - enjoying the freedom of single life. didn't care to 'put myself out there'.

i know part of it is my introversion - makes it harder to meet men when you'd rather not socialize most of the time (and non-introverts often have trouble understanding this). part of it might be that i am very liberal in an area where liberals are the minority.

mainly though, i just haven't found the right connection yet. i used to be kind of eager for a happily-ever-after gig, but i decided to enjoy life & take each day as it comes so if the right person comes along i'll know it's that (and not just some guy to stand next to me at the altar).

to the original poster - you sound slightly frustrated. do you feel like your spontaneity is intimidating or have you been with guys who want things to be predictable? can you share an example from your experiences (and would you even want to)?
- May 25th, 2009, 03:45 pm
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rei818 wrote :

to the original poster - you sound slightly frustrated. do you feel like your spontaneity is intimidating or have you been with guys who want things to be predictable? can you share an example from your experiences (and would you even want to)?
+1 I don't think you mean to, but it sounds like the OP is generalizing a bit. There are probably men out there that are more spontaneous than you. I'm personally not a spontaneous person and have some spontaneous friends that make me appreciate the trait.
- May 25th, 2009, 04:00 pm
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i wonder what D_Lion meant to say.

i am frustrated.

all these times meeting the wrong guys for me is making **ugh**
- May 25th, 2009, 04:02 pm
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rei818 wrote :
i know part of it is my introversion - makes it harder to meet men when you'd rather not socialize most of the time (and non-introverts often have trouble understanding this).
Yes, that's my problem with meeting women. I've heard that I come across as being stuffy and not very friendly just because I'm quiet. I've tried to correct it but it's hard when you're not a natural extrovert. I suppose first impressions are everything, and I obviously don't make a very good one. I would think that I'd have a greater chance of making a bad impression by opening my mouth too much. Go figure.
- May 25th, 2009, 04:11 pm
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I'm single because a lot of the guys I meet take "easy going and easy to please" as meaning they don't have to do anything at all. I don't require expensive dinners and gifts, but thoughtful gestures are always appreciated. All relationships require some attention.
- May 25th, 2009, 04:37 pm
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yes. because i have limited imagination. no vision for 24x7 coupledom. i try, but what i come up with is weak.
- May 25th, 2009, 04:45 pm
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I'm single because a lot of the guys I meet take "easy going and easy to please" as meaning they don't have to do anything at all. I don't require expensive dinners and gifts, but thoughtful gestures are always appreciated. All relationships require some attention.
i know what you mean. some people just think it's easy for people to compromise. **Phish**
- May 25th, 2009, 04:49 pm
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