How to Deal with an Embarrassing Family

How to Deal with an Embarrassing Family

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Oregon_Coast_Guy is offline Oregon_Coast_Guy Post #31  December 7,2009, 7:43pm
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Sometimes though, meeting the fam. CAN be a good filter on a partner.

It's one thing to have those 1 or 2 relatives who make politically incorrect remarks, or who bring their dog to every function. It's another when you have several relatives who are alcoholics, junkies, in jail, etc.

Knowing the amount of disfunction in your SO's family can help you to see how compatible they are with you, because their families do influence their mindset, way of thinking, and things of that nature. You learn what are some strong possibilites for the future.

Or you learn why your SO refuses to touch alcohol.
 
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Ezra is offline Ezra Post #32  December 12,2009, 8:56pm
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my dad sleeps with his underwere in the couch in living room.
which means when i bring someone to my house, they has pass throu my dad.
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marksgirl is offline marksgirl Post #33  December 16,2009, 5:11am
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Haha, this article makes me laugh because the first day I met my fiance in person, my dad got the photo album out right away and was showing it off to him! LOL! And, if that wasn't bad enough, my grandmas came over, as well as my uncle and his three kids (so basically he met my mom's immediate family right off the bat) lol! It was like BAM, here meet everyone all at once!

At least I met my fiance at my church first and went out to eat with him for lunch before he had to meet the family. That gave us time to actually get a handle on meeting each other first and spend some time together by ourselves.

One thing is for sure, he sure passed the family test right off. In fact, he commented shortly after when we were alone on how much he liked my family He's such an awesome guy! Guess that's one reason I love him SO much!
 
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deddancer is offline deddancer Post #34  December 22,2009, 10:59am
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I agree that I wouldn't bring a "date" that I had only been out with once or twice to see my family but then I normally have a couple hundred miles between us. But I come from a Southern and Italian family .. we don't hide our crazies, we bring them out and parade them. It become a contest on who can name the craziest.

Besides its a great litmus test, if they can't handle my family they probably won't be able to handle me in the long run. Besides I only see my family a couple times a year.
 
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I agree that I wouldn't bring a "date" that I had only been out with once or twice to see my family but then I normally have a couple hundred miles between us. But I come from a Southern and Italian family .. we don't hide our crazies, we bring them out and parade them. It become a contest on who can name the craziest.

Besides its a great litmus test, if they can't handle my family they probably won't be able to handle me in the long run. Besides I only see my family a couple times a year.
THAT IS REALLY CUTE
 
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misswright is offline misswright Post #36  January 7,2011, 1:19pm

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The saying that you cannot change where you came from is true ..and yes some familys have a few more colorful relatives then they are willing to admit..and even own.. i found that it not good to interduce your family to any one you date sometime.but if they know some of them before you interduce them to them or the other clan... look out.. sometime it not always bad..it can be good.. SO i have select relatives that i deal with anyway's on i place a distance between them and me.. {the colorful ones} and i would hope that who i date at the time know..
When dating can be a laugh at time when the family members come in to play..you know just were your date thinks of them and how they handle it..
It leave the topic of family later to be discuss..
 
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I actually believe that how your boyfriend/girlfriend deals with your embarrassing family is an excellent way to find out how they handle difficult situations. There's nothing like throwing real problems at someone to find out exactly how they are going to behave in tough times.

One of the reasons I loved my late husband was that despite how much my mom would say things that offended him sometimes, he always managed to see the best in her, and he helped me to frame her sometimes strange behavior as something that was amusing and not embarrassing. He was always trying to figure out what made her tick. Having that kind of acceptance in your life is a gift that he gave me that I will be eternally grateful for.

The same can be said in reverse. If your partner runs at the sight of your "crazy mom" (whomever that is in your life), that's probably a good sign as to how he/she is going to behave when times get tough.
 
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My mom is on her 4th husband. My step-mom still lives with my dad even though they've mbeen divorced for 7 years. There is a bed in their living room. One of my sisters (28 years old) and her 3 kids (by 3 dads) still lives there. Another sister is on her 2nd marriage and has 4 kids by 3 dads. My other sister did things the right way, except she got married without telling anyone. I just might be the most normal person in my family with my one divorce and two daughters by one woman conceived in wedlock.

Everyone has weird families.
 
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My negative opinions about the expressions my Southern Grandmother, Nannie, uses are only negative because of her hard work. I am very thankful her and I communicate differently instead of identically. I will now focus on appreciating our differences. Thank you for publishing this article Eharmony team!
 
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