How to Feel Sexy No Matter What Your Age Is

How to Feel Sexy No Matter What Your Age Is

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ladeeassist is offline ladeeassist Post #1  April 24,2009, 7:02am
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Great article. Encouraging and full of wisdom and confidence.
 
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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadvice — Advice Official Moderator Post #2  April 24,2009, 7:02am

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It's easy for women in our society to get the message that their sex appeal is based on youth and beauty. But claiming your right to be sexy isn't about your birth date. It's about your attitude.
 
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At 50 I find myself less inhibited which I beleive is sexy
 
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My reaction was different. I never (except as a teenager) was self conscious about my body, have any of the insecurities that the author expressed, or feel that I am somehow unattractive or "non sexy" just because I'm 49. I posted a good picture of myself (I'm slim and attractive), contacted a ton of matches, and got zero results. I think there is a real double standard out there. Men tend to age less well than women, and there are less ways for them to hide it if they are dumpy, overweight, balding, etc. Yet these same guys expect to be able to date younger, attractive women, and won't even consider dating a woman near their age or slightly older. I don't think the "problem" is women not feeling sexy and needing to stop worrying about their thighs--and advice like this is kind of insulting....
 
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I usually surround myself with less attractive men. Sexiness is relative.
 
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I agree with the article. Sometimes as we get older it is hard not to compare ourselves with the 20 somethings out there. I am 41 now and am happy and content with my age and where I am in life. However, having had 2 children later in life (my youngest just turned 1), my body is not as forgiving as it used to be and it is taking a lot to get back to the body that I am used to. But I now realize that sexiness can have a lot less to do with your body size and more to do with the joy and confidence that you have in yourself. Men seem to be more attracted to someone who is secure with themselves and happy with themselves than someone who is insecure and trying to act half their age.
 
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I know nobody will like this but why is that women can declare themselves to be sexy,beautiful,wonderful,ect ect but a man must let a woman decide if he is acceptable,in the time i have been here i have seen threads where women pat themselves on the back and talk about how wonderful they are,behaviour like this from a man would get him the conceted jerk award,a women who does it is a strong confidentwomen.The fact is a woman can think she's sexy all she wants to but until she finds a man who agrees with her she will be alone,just as a man must find someone who thinks he is desirable.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #8  April 26,2009, 5:05am
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Personally, 'sexy' isn't really what I wantin a woman. "Elegant' is closer to what I'm looking for. I also don't have any real interest in trying to be or look 'sexy' either.
 
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To me, someone who exudes Charisma is sexy


Age, attire, has little to do with it. How one carries themself/behaves, ie; mannerisms.


To feel sexywithin will only serve me well in the long run. If my SO feels I am, bonus!
 
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Charisma!! That's the word. And sexy was't the right word now that I think about it. Attractive is. Feeling good about myself inside and out. It isn't something that you try to do so that the opposite sex will want me, though. I don't live my life trying to find a man. God gives us every moment and experience as a gift in life. If sometime that God decides that I am ready and someone comes along that I can share that joy with wonderful. But I understand that it is possible that this may not happen. If that is the case, I have my two very special sons, family and friends surrounding me and with them and God at my side, I have no regrets.


I believe that I have had so many more problems in my life when I made the decisions of what to do or where to go or how I look based on would there be a man that would be there and how could I get him to like me.


My outside appearance isn't one that is appealling to a lot of men. I am in the process of losing weight after having a baby last spring. But guess what! I am still happy and getting healther each day. I may never be what someone sees as sexy, but that is OK. I am at that "doesn't she have a pretty face" stage. My joy and happiness doesn't depend on being in a relationship. There were many years when it did and I didn't feel good about myself but no more. Thank God. There is so much more in life to experience and enjoy without worrying about what others think I look like. After escaping a domestic violence marriage last summer and starting over with my kids, I have come to learn a lot about about myself and where my joy, happiness and sense of who I am and how attractive I am comes from. I thank God everyday for taking care of me and giving me a brand new life--a life filled with joy and security in the Lord and purpose! This makes me feel good and beautiful. The more I learned to like who I am the better I feel about others. I am going to enjoy the life God has given me! A divorced, 41 year old mom of 2, who has rediscovered joy in life and enjoys sharing it with others.
 
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