Singlers, do you still dream about your wedding?


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pukeko is offline pukeko Post #1  April 19,2009, 7:40pm
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has a long report due Thursday and still not even .5 there. **headache**

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I am just curious as who still dream of that childish, fairytale wedding? Do you? Do you? What is your dream wedding?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  April 19,2009, 8:13pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I never thinking about having a wedding. I'd like to get married again...but the ceremony means little to me. Maybe that's a guy thing.
 
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VB_Girl is online now VB_Girl Post #3  April 19,2009, 8:30pm
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I don't dream about it, but do think about it every now and then. My idea of the perfect wedding has changed as I've gotten older.
 
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PY is offline PY Post #4  April 19,2009, 9:01pm

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Same like VB girl...not necessarily dream about it...but think about it from time-to-time...the first dance....the toast...I even thought of one perfect song as a background when we recite our vows ( ), rehearsal dinners, the fun times when we go from tables to tables...visiting our friends and chat....everybody starts hitting their glasses with forks and we have to do the 'obligatory' kiss...thinking about having somebody do a video on our previous lives as singles and how we meet, etc. The anticipation of her walking on the isle....and I'm thinking how the heck I can prevent myself from balling when I do my vows to her...*sigh*


*sigh* not that I spend too much time thinking about this...
 
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I've always tended to think more about the life together than the day of the wedding. That's more because I'm not about the big show that many weddings have become. I rather have a small wedding...simple but special.


So a dream wedding to me would simply be one that even if things didn't go perfect...ended with happy memories of the day.
 
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gr8galmv is offline gr8galmv Post #6  April 19,2009, 10:18pm
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Nah, I grew out of the fairy tale dream wedding after being mostly single the last ten years since my brief one week encounter of having been engaged. My idea of a dream wedding has changed and it has nothing to do with showing off to others, color specifics, linens or any other crap...it has to do with the guy who is standing next to me and the important people in my life who are there to witness it.
 
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I had my dream wedding. We hada somewhat elegant tent wedding, right in the back yard of my (future) in-laws house. It was relaxed, it was fun, it was our families (which are both very large families), and our friends and the reception party lasted all together.... 3 days lol.


There seemed to be no real wedding 'structure' to any of it, except the ceremony, which occured midway through day 1. We all ate, and drank, and danced and played softball, and volleyball and had water balloon fightsand all kinds of stuff.People sleeping over and more food and more drinking and more dancing and it was just.... really, really a great time, and people still mention it from time to time.


I would like to be married again, and really haven't thought about the actual 'wedding', but imagine that it would be something that would nicely reflect the personalities of both myself and my future husband, and that's not something I can possibly have a preconceived idea of.
 
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Yikes...longer post than I thought..HAHAHA..oh well...read if ya want


I also had my 'dream' wedding already and still can look back with such great feelings/memories..It wasn't really big with just wonderful friend's and family..but lasted for 3 days with activites...(June was perfect weather in this area)


The rehearsal dinner we had outside our home in tents with everyone dressed in jeans/shorts...We had big bbq..kids running and playing games...music, just laughing and enjoying time together all afternoon/evening..


Then the wedding was 'formal' to the extent of being in our church..but our pastor is such a wonderfully poignant but funny man!!! We had my 'bonus' (step) childrenactually in the wedding (they were teenagers at the time)...friend's playing guitar and singing for us...not a dry eye in the house!!


I had bought all the small pretty colored rocks/stones that everyone took one when they entered the church...and during the ceremony, our pastor asked that everyone say a prayer for us with them..and then put them in a basket on the way back out and we kept that in our home to see everyday!!


Reception was at a nearby hotel in this town square with all these outdoor shops...so all the out of town guests were staying for the weekend to relax, drink, not worry about driving...


(I had set up all these 'Virginia' wecome baskets in their roomsfor things to do, foods/drink that are from here...a little goofy/funny poem I wrote about each of them!! LOL


We actually had a little 'scavenger hunt" for everone to do in between the dinner/cake...where I had a prize at the end of gift certificates to shop...like Lucky..people still talk about how our wedding was so much fun and different than most...


We all laughed, shared, cried, drank and DANCED our butts off till the wee hours of the morning...That was very important that my dress could MOVE when dancing since I didn't want to be 'stiff' sitting in some corner..hahaha....


The next morningwehad a 'come when you feel like' (ok..only after 10am!!! LOL) wear your PJ'sbrunch in our honeymoon suite so we could chat more one/one with friend's and family that we hadn't seen in awhile...


Then another casual dinner at our home with just family before we drove to the airport for our European honeymoon!


Since we had our home already set up with both of being older...we had 'donate to the couple's fun"..hahaha...for our honeymoon instead of buying any regualr wedding presents...People said they loved that since they didn't have to shop!!!!


The weddingreally 'sounds' more expensive than it was...I am a 'bargain' type girl and did all the work myself searched and bartered for months on everything and I actually LOVED every single minute of planning all the fun details...I do fundraising/event planning as a career so don't get stressed at all..it's a joy!


So...if I am ever blessed to be married again..it will just be whatever both of us want to plan...I really would love the whole beach/barefoot/casual dress kind of thing next time...but if the man I met hasn't been married before..or if he wants more formal..I'm sure we would figure it outIt's a day meant for celebration!
 
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I know it's stupid... to be 30 and still think about my dream wedding. I've never been married, close a few times, just never actually took the plunge. I don't think about the actual wedding too much but I do think about what music I want to be playing when I walk down the isle... and even though it's not smart, I already have my "fist dance" song picked out. Haven't met anyone I would actually consider marrying, but I have the song ready... yes, yes, I am pathetic. lol
 
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AsianFusion is offline AsianFusion Post #10  April 20,2009, 1:23pm
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PY,585941 wrote :

Same like VB girl...not necessarily dream about it...but think about it from time-to-time...the first dance....the toast...I even thought of one perfect song as a background when we recite our vows ( ), rehearsal dinners, the fun times when we go from tables to tables...visiting our friends and chat....everybody starts hitting their glasses with forks and we have to do the 'obligatory' kiss...thinking about having somebody do a video on our previous lives as singles and how we meet, etc. The anticipation of her walking on the isle....and I'm thinking how the heck I can prevent myself from balling when I do my vows to her...*sigh*


*sigh* not that I spend too much time thinking about this...

My advice to you, PY-elope!Thatshould take care ofsome ofyour worries. Personally, I think "big wedding" is over-rated -especially with the high divorce rates we havenowadays. Save that money fordownpayment of your new home,upcoming babies or college funds for your kids (unless, of course,you have a rich daddy who is paying for the wedding).
 
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