Singlers, do you still dream about your wedding?


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lavyjo is offline lavyjo Post #61  June 2,2009, 6:50am
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To Meri75, I see your point about a) because I used to feel that way about my own family, as in who would want to get involved with that bunch of kooks, and why would I want to bring someone into that mess. But as cliched as it may sound, all that changes when you meet the right person. I'm right now going through that phase with my SO where we're meeting each other's families and going through that merging process. My parents haven't met his parents yet, but so far we've each met the other's parents. It's weird how your parents don't end up acting as crazy as you think they might, and even weirder how your SO won't get all freaked out by whatever quirks they do display
This is not quite the experience I had with other guys I've brought home in the past, even ones I got engaged to, so I'm convinced it all has to do with "the right one". Holding my breath that this trend continues!

And to answer the original poster, I agree with some other people here who said they feel they're too old and cynical to be dreaming about fairy tale weddings. I'd like something quiet with my SO and our closest family members, meaning parents, grandparents, siblings only. Friends all get invited to the huge reception to follow. When I was younger I used to pick out wedding colours, cakes, flowers, and so on. Not any more :-\
 
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pukeko wrote :
i thought about our song too...Linda Rostead and Aaron N 'I don't know much'.
Yes and for the first dance you could play "Never gonna let you GO! Gonna hold you in MY arms Fooorever!"
 
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pukeko wrote :
I am just curious as who still dream of that childish, fairytale wedding? Do you? Do you? What is your dream wedding?
Childish fairytale wedding...? When I was a child I dreamed of going to Japan to become a ninja or getting a job as a playboy photographer.

I don't know about the extravagant wedding and all the traditional cliche's, songs and rituals. Weddings are so ungodly expensive anyways, especially in this economy. Something like a down payment on a house seems more practical.

If I had to go through a wedding ceremony by gunpoint I think I'd do the beach wedding. You know, the guys with extra short kacki pants; white button downed shirts with the sleeves rolled up; 5:00 shadows and the styled messed up hair look. You can't forget the cliched B&W photos of guests looking out to the ocean with a non focused, hollow gaze and blank expressionless look on their face (kind of like the look that ladies have on their faces when they go to the bathroom).

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I have always been a dreamer. I seem to already have some things planned for my wedding when I don't even have a groom.

I have my "father/daughter" song picked out, what kind of flowers I will have in my bouquet, and for awhile had the date (but have decided to be lax on that one ).

I always dream about my wedding and the future I will have with the man I marry!
 
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I have my entire wedding planned from where it will be to my dress, the food, the flowers, the colors. Everything!

Now I just need to find my groom
 
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I was engaged for 4yrs and just 3months before the wedding I called it off. I had planned my "dream wedding", it was perfect, from the flowers, to all the songs, decorations, everything was carefully selected by me to resemble that fairy tale wedding, but in a budget. After dealing with all the mess that comes after calling a wedding off, and being ready to start dating and thinking about the possibility of ever getting married, I suddenly realized that if I were to marry the man of my dreams I wouldnt really care how, when or where it happened, as long as I get to spend the rest of my life with him.
 
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Yay, first post... Do I still dream about my wedding? Yes. To make it simple:

I want it in Disney World. I want my dad, who will be wearing Mickey ears, and Mickey Mouse himself, escort me down to the isle where my soon-to-be husband will be waiting there, my mom will be crying, of course, but filled with happiness. My brother and other relatives and my friends will be like "Whoa!"

My friend, who is studying culinary and will be making nothing but cakes, promised that she will design my cake, and everyone will be enjoying their time at the parks afterwards.

Despite all the dreaming about that, I can still dream about the $28,000 I need to get ...As well as 100 guests in order for this to happen.
 
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mari3434 is offline mari3434 Post #68  October 17,2009, 11:49pm
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I used to daydream about marriage ....after being engaged once for 6 years...lol.....and now being single again....and being 34,.....I am not sure I want to be married. What is important is spending my life with someone that I adore. I do not need a marriage certificate for that.
 
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Do I dream about the wedding itself? Nope. I don't really care if I have a ceremony or not, because I've seen enough of my friends driven crazy by the planning and the family arguments that I have zero desire to go there. I also don't want to be told that I have to invite people I don't particularly care for (or even know) to my wedding. I don't like wedding showers, I don't like all of the froo-froo wedding stuff, I hate having my picture taken, and really, when I'm ready to get married, I just want to get to the part where I get to say, "I do," without having to take a year to plan and spend an arm and a leg on the festivities. I'd be perfectly content with eloping, in all honesty. I'd rather use all of that "ceremony money" on something much more important--like the honeymoon.

However, marriage itself really does mean a great deal to me, even though the wedding day doesn't. I do want to get married one day, and I won't go into a relationship with the notion that I'd be happy just staying in a relationship for the rest of my life. If a man can commit to being in a relationship with me, but won't commit to being in a marriage with me, then he's just not the man for me.

Regardless of how I feel about all of this, it's a very, very long way off, if it even ever happens for me. What I want, what I think I might have a shot at, and what I get are often very different things, sadly.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #70  October 21,2009, 2:10pm

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No. I never did.

Now I'm older I think I'd like to be married.

I think I'd like the ceremony to be very tiny and have meaning to me and the person I was marrying. As I haven't met him yet, I probably shouldn't get ahead of myself with the wedding day details!
 
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