Singlers, do you still dream about your wedding?


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #51  April 24,2009, 6:47pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I wonder what the great attraction is for a big wedding? Is it 'feeling special' and being the center of attention for a day?
 
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I've never really been able to picture myself getting married so I don't have any sort offairytale eventin mind. I don't really get spending a fortune on a big one day party when no one will really remember much about it anyway.....I know lots do this and love it, but it's just not for me.


My sister just had a destination wedding in January and it was so much fun that I'm thinking it's the way to go if marriage is ever in the picture....wedding/vacation/honeymoon all in one somewhere tropical? Hard to go wrong with that.
 
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A-L is offline A-L Post #53  April 25,2009, 7:19am
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Do I have a mental image of my dream wedding? Yes. I usually only think about it though when I'm dating a guy seriously. I've never been married so the wedding is still something I'm looking forward to, but it's not a big bridezilla thing. Just family and the closest of friends (like, no more than 5 on my side) for a weekend shindig. Basically have a couple of days beforehand to hang out and have fun together and then finish off with the wedding and tons of dancing. And I don't want to spend a fortune for one day (or weekend) as there are more important things to spend the money on, like my honeymoon, house, etc.
 
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I want a big wedding in the sense that I want everyone important to myself and my spouse (yet to be named ha!) there. I also want to wear a fabulous dress, because there aren't many times you can wear a big poofy white dress
 
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I used to think about what my wedding may be like quite a bit. In my family, I have florists, chefs and people who can make bridal dresses - so these things were discussed fairly regularly when I was younger.


I'm estranged from one of my sisters, half my Mum's siblings aren't speaking tous... so now my thoughts on a wedding go like this:


a. What man in his right mind would want to hook himself into my extended family! LOL!


b. I can't work out how to seat people at tables so 'enemies' aren't placed together. *sigh*


c. Due to point b; hmm - perhaps no guests on my side will attend!


d. The registry marriage with two strangers as the necessary witnesses, is now looking good!


LOL! If it ever happens, I'm sure it will be great on the day- but you see why I no longer dwell on weddings
 
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pukeko, wrote :

I am just curious as who still dream of that childish, fairytale wedding? Do you? Do you? What is your dream wedding?

When I was a child I played with soldiers and blew up things. Fun. Fairytale? {scratching my head...?} Er...NO. I'm a guy, weddings are for women. Sure I once thought how my first wedding should be...but my ex was kind enough to smash any thought I ever had of it! She had her own ideas....people in town are still recovering...


What is my dream wedding? Some vague thoughts that I'll actually get married again, there will be guests there I love and a few I don't. Oh and a woman there, of course, the bride. The Commanding Field General.


Ok I'm actually more romantic than that...but it's private. Us men and our silly romantic notions. My God, I actually do have a few thoughts about this...I'd better not tell or I'll be thought of as a wuss. Can you imagine? Why who would hire a Spartan wuss? I very well wouldn't be allowed back into the phalanx...
 
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I think it's nice some of the men here have written they think about what the wedding may be like. A couple I know is getting married this June and I'm friends with both of them. I asked him about how the wedding preparations were coming along and his response was along the lines of he thought it was all coming together nicely but didn't really know ... his fiance was organising it all!
 
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jayjay,592366 wrote :


I wonder what the great attraction is for a big wedding? Is it 'feeling special' and being the center of attention for a day?


jayjay, here's a video that explains it. It's called "I'll Guess You'll Do." It's a comedy ladies...


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ii-dV...eature=related






"Hey you some guy, I'm some girl, I guess we might as well have a life together..."
 
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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #59  April 29,2009, 12:35pm
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AsianFusion,586625 wrote :

PY,585941 wrote :


Same like VB girl...not necessarily dream about it...but think about it from time-to-time...the first dance....the toast...I even thought of one perfect song as a background when we recite our vows ( ), rehearsal dinners, the fun times when we go from tables to tables...visiting our friends and chat....everybody starts hitting their glasses with forks and we have to do the 'obligatory' kiss...thinking about having somebody do a video on our previous lives as singles and how we meet, etc. The anticipation of her walking on the isle....and I'm thinking how the heck I can prevent myself from balling when I do my vows to her...*sigh*


*sigh* not that I spend too much time thinking about this...





My advice to you, PY-elope!Thatshould take care ofsome ofyour worries. Personally, I think "big wedding" is over-rated -especially with the high divorce rates we havenowadays. Save that money fordownpayment of your new home,upcoming babies or college funds for your kids (unless, of course,you have a rich daddy who is paying for the wedding).
AF and PY,


The divorce rate among Asians is actually pretty low, comparatively speaking. It's also lower for more educated couples, and for couples in the higher socioeconomic levels of society (Of course, individual mileage may vary.)


So invite me to your wedding!
 
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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #60  April 29,2009, 12:57pm
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I think there is great significance to a wedding. It's a ceremony that demonstrates intent of two people to expess a permanent commitment to each other. It joins their familes and friends as well, and it is an occasion for celebration. It can be a meaningful ritual, full of symbolism that reflects the values that the couple hope to share.


I've never had a wedding, but have been a bridesmaid and maid of honor, and the event can be complex or it can be simple. The ingredients to a great wedding: a committed couple, a clear vision, a firm hand with the finances, guest list, menu and activities, and the ability to compromise with grace.


Approach it in the right spirit and it can be in incredibly joyful and memorable. That's how my wedding will be.
 
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