Singlers, do you still dream about your wedding?


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PY is offline PY Post #21  April 20,2009, 4:03pm

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Ingytravel,586798 wrote :

Wait..did you say shrimp, chocolate, wine and cake? Now THAT is MY perfect dream wedding!!!! YUMMY
lol forget the wedding that's my perfect BREAKFAST!
 
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I never thinking about having a wedding. I'd like to get married again...but the ceremony means little to me. Maybe that's a guy thing.


sadden to hear that a wedding means nothing to you. i bet when you meet that right lady, it will mean everything to you.


Hey kid....it's the ceremony/party that means little to me. I very much look forward to actually being married. Just not to the ceremony. Same way I look forward to completing my degree....but going through the commencement ceremony means little to me (and I will actually miss this as I have to move prior to the ceremony).


Also, listening to women longingly recount their past 'dream' weddings makes me think of the possibility of my marrying a woman who's previously had such a great ceremony. This gives me a feeling of my marriage to such a woman being somehow less special to herthan what she previously had.
Ohh..Jayjay...there is not any possibility that just because I had a great wedding day, that if I were to get married again..it wouldn't be special!


I just talked about mine because obviously I am divorced, andthere were terrible times in the marriage..I think it's great to remember a happy day with my ex that's all...and I had FUN in planning it...


So it is more about whatever my next hubby wanted..but just more so that HE doesn't feel any pressure to give me this 'huge', expensive day..


But if I am blessed enough to marry again...NOTHING will be more special or important to me then sharing with a man that I will truly spend the rest of my life with this time
 
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PY,586802 wrote :

Ingytravel,586798 wrote :


Wait..did you say shrimp, chocolate, wine and cake? Now THAT is MY perfect dream wedding!!!! YUMMY


lol forget the wedding that's my perfect BREAKFAST!
com'on don't scoff at this. seriously, there are reasons these choices. these stuff are rare where my relatives live. most never tasted them.
 
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Dear Pukeko,


Though this may sound odd for a lady, I've never, even as a child, harbored a fairy-tale wedding dream or even thought about the wedding itself. I do believe the covenant is between God, the husband, and the wife, but as far as thinking about things like locales, dresses, flowers, receptions, and the material aspects, I've just never done that.


Perhaps it's because I'm not a very materialistic person - not that I'm saying others are because they dream of their weddings.


It's like the Barbie doll. It's all a fantasy. It doesn't exist in real life. Fantasies, like fairy-tale weddings, only serve to make people unhappy when the reality doesn't live up to the fantasy, which it never can.


That's why I think Barbie's are harmful to girls as it distorts their body images and makes them dissatisfied with the way God has make them to be.


Same way with fantasies about the wedding day. It's not the man and woman walk down the aisle and live happily ever after. Marriage requires very hard work, communication, compromise, good conflict resolution skills, a 'til death do us part commitment, regular consummation and so many things.


It's not good to instill a standard in a young girl such as a fantasy wedding day and a happily ever after. It only makes the person feel cheated in some way if the fantasy is not met which can never be attained anyway.


So much better to be contented with what one has and is able to afford and do in conjunction with their future spouse.


The focus should be on the marriage, not the wedding, and going the distance for a lifetime, not just for the day.


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What's a wedding?
 
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yes. your thread about the house you want, etc. got me thinking about a wedding. i mean like you got to have a wedding first before having a house in the surburbs and live happily ever after.
 
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pukeko,586911 wrote :

PY,586802 wrote :


Ingytravel,586798 wrote :


Wait..did you say shrimp, chocolate, wine and cake? Now THAT is MY perfect dream wedding!!!! YUMMY


lol forget the wedding that's my perfect BREAKFAST!


com'on don't scoff at this. seriously, there are reasons these choices. these stuff are rare where my relatives live. most never tasted them.
P...I was not making fun at all..I LOVE those things..it so sweet for you to want to give your family/relative's things they have never experienced....


I enjoyed my wedding day as much because everyone else had a great time too, so that made me happy
 
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I have never had in my mind the "dream" wedding. I have never drooled over brides magazines. For one thing I always figured that a lot would depend on the guy as well and what we wanted together. Also, the older I get the more I want things to be simple and fun. As far as I will go in looking ahead is thinking something on the beach, casual and intimate sounds nice. It doesn't mean I don't want to get married just that I would prefer to plan it together and have something simple to enjoy.


Besides, I would rather spend more on the honeymoon!
 
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PY,586634 wrote :

haha..i think for me big wedding is inevitable and no..I don't wanna elope.


Divorce rate yes, it's high in the US, but I still have a pretty decent chance overseas...at the very least it's not 50/50 there..plus I have a much higher hope that I am not as invisible as I am here to women (romantically speaking).


We can talk about this in more detail via PM
Of course, inmost Asian countries, the men typically pay for the wedding, plus expensive jewelry and gifts to the bribe's family . . . hmmmm,Isuppose I cangoforthat!
 
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haha..i think for me big wedding is inevitable and no..I don't wanna elope.


Divorce rate yes, it's high in the US, but I still have a pretty decent chance overseas...at the very least it's not 50/50 there..plus I have a much higher hope that I am not as invisible as I am here to women (romantically speaking).


We can talk about this in more detail via PM


Of course, inmost Asian countries, the men typically pay for the wedding, plus expensive jewelry and gifts to the bribe's family . . . hmmmm,Isuppose I cangoforthat!
Yeah....but you have to be willing to accept other culturally expected differences and sex roles that go along with that.
 
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