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rtist Be willing to give up the life you planned, 2 have the life waiting 4 u.

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I was married for 18 years. Just grew apart, nothing horrid. I started dating and found that I'm real picky about actually living with someone (you know marriage). Being single is really pretty cool once you get used to it and it makes you really appreciate your time with the opposite sex, when that happens.
- May 12th, 2009, 02:23 pm
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The27thS, wrote :

I was curious as to what people's answers to this question might be. I am currently single because I have yet to meet anyone interesting.
I may as well put it out there. I'm single because I was in a 12 year abusive relationship. Since then I have healed, but in the process I became too independent maybe. The last few tries have failed because I did not want someone that said "I love you" after the 2nd date or wanted to do everything for me instead of shareing the job or my favorite, minimized everything I did past, present and future. I totaly lost it when I was told that I must have enjoyed the abuse or I wouldn't have stayed as long as I did. If I was the catty type I would have unsheathed my claws right there and then. But I just sat there dumb struck and knew this was not the one for me. I have been single for 15 years now and had a total of five short relationships in that time (less than a month each).


I have had to face a lot of truths about myself in the past two years as to why I am single. My worst, I think, is that I have a cryteria. Apparently, in order to find a match, one has to compramize in almost every aspect of ones expectations of a partner. I thought I was being reasonable, but apparently not. All I want is someone in my age bracket that is clean cut and takes reasonable care of their body. I don't care what car they drive or what income bracket they are in, as long as they have an income so I don't have to suport them. And someone that is ok with me being an independent woman. Damn, now I'm ranting. I'm single because I have a cryteria.
- May 12th, 2009, 09:10 pm
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sabete2002 wrote :

My ex of almost 20 years decided the grass was greener on the other side of the fence. Apparently, it is as they got married last summer.


I've had a couple of ltr's since and have dated on and off in the meantime, hoping to find "the one". I won't settle though so if it is my lot to be on my own from this point forward, I'd rather be happy alone than unhappy in a relationship that wasn't working. I've so much to be thankful for - great kids, friends and family and life is never dull. Being in a happy fulfilled relationship would be the icing on the cake.
You go girl. You just said it like it is. With that kind of additude you will be happy all your life no matter how it turns out in the dating game. I bend my knee to you and all that you stand for.
- May 12th, 2009, 09:27 pm
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Why am I single? Because I have high standards: no smoking (period, exclamation point!), no excessive drinking, no drugs, must be completely faithful, reasonably honest (yes, you can lie about eating that last cookie), someone I can be physically attracted to (no, you don’t have to be a lingerie model), who I can laugh with- but most importantly someone I can converse with. After all the steamy sex and sweeping romance of the early relationship, there must be that.


It isn’t as if I don’t get hit on- I do! I happen to be one of those men missing the woman sense: I am so dense when it comes to women being attracted to me, I must have my own event horizon. It takes direct, blunt language to get through the dead zone- example: "I like you. Would you like to…" insert non-dirty activity here. That would get my attention. But if you don’t meet the above criteria, I’ll have to politely decline.


I don’t think my little shopping list is unreasonable. I *know* I’d be unhappy if I didn’t get it. As for what else turns the ladies off- I’m an atheist (I’m not pushy until I am pushed too far), I can be pedantic (*hangs head* workin’ on that), I have a tempestuous relationship with sharp objects (have long hair, often with a five o’clock shadow), I tend to poverty (as I spend money on charitable- family- cases), and I am often absent minded (my notepad is my physical memory). *grin*


I happen to think I’m pretty darn cool myself, but I also know there’s a lot of better people than me out there. Good luck to all you single guys and gals out there! I’m going to try and go back to sleep.
- May 12th, 2009, 10:37 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
you should really evaluate how you appear to people- you may be giving off bad vibes without even realizing it.
Screw that! Why change who you are just because you rub some people (single females) the wrong way? This seemingly goes against everything American -the gung ho independent screw what everyone else thinks spirit!!!

Yea, I may have over interpreted. It is co-counsel bacardi's fault.
- May 14th, 2009, 10:58 pm
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NathanCM wrote :
Screw that! Why change who you are just because you rub some people (single females) the wrong way? This seemingly goes against everything American -the gung ho independent screw what everyone else thinks spirit!!!

Yea, I may have over interpreted. It is co-counsel bacardi's fault.
kay. my co counsel Jose is rebutting.

it's not about changing your personality. you are who you are, and i am a firm believer in being who you are.

BUT

you may be a great guy, but if the first impression you leave on a person is that you are a ah0le tha you need to at least soften or adjust your approach until people get to know you a bit better.
- May 14th, 2009, 11:05 pm
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I would treat a woman with respect and the most important thing to me is that she stays faithful to me because I'd be faithful to her as well. Does anyone think that's asking too much??
- May 14th, 2009, 11:53 pm
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single is much better than letting something that just feels good for right now, and convenient for today turn into something much worse as the days pass you both by. single doesn't trade away for that which you see on every sidewalk, every day and always on sale. a great deal until you buy it only to find out there's no return and no $$ back.
- May 15th, 2009, 06:03 am
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I'm single, because I can take care of myself and take very little crap from others when it to my personal life. I believe everyone has a worth and should be treated as such. I treat others with respect and expect the same in return. If they can't hang with that, they can dive off.
- May 15th, 2009, 06:33 am
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If I knew why I was single, I probably wouldn't be single :P
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