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PY wrote :

I'm single because:


1. I'm always the good friend, but never the romantic partner potential.


2. When women see me, they can't see spending the rest of their lives with me.


3. What I offer don't match with what they want.


4. I normallyfailon crazy check list number #8 (or #3) before I can even score a 2nd date (or even 1st..."Ah..he said 'hello' instead of 'nice to meet you'...he's a jerk I won't date him!!!")


5. They want somebody tall.


6. They want the good ol' American boy.


7. They have a list of 100 little things that they expect from men to keep them interested, to assure themor to catch their attention. This is in addition to the 100etiquettesthat men have to do to be considered a gentleman. I think I can barely keep up with 10.


8.I can'tkeep up with their fantasy guy, who's always more *insert whatever here*, and always bigger (ok, not necessarily ) and better.


I know there are about 28,371 more...but can't think of them right now...


Btw....not complaining at all, I'm just sayin...


Edit: I knew I forgot the most important one....they don't feel the chemistry with me


and I think with this post, I'm pretty sure I've made lots of enemies with the wimmens LOL.
PY, don't give up. My hubby had the same list as you and was older when we married. He used to say he had to wait for me to grow up. Some lucky woman is going to "feel the chemistry" with you.
- April 19th, 2009, 03:57 am
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vapsman88 wrote :

PY wrote :


I'm single because:





PY, you know I am in pretty much the same position as you with some minor variations.


You have articulated it better than I could.


I am single, not because I want to be but because better to be single than in a bad relationship.


And I have been in bad ones unfortunately. The reasons below is probably why eHarmony did not work for me either.


1. I'm always the good friend, but never the romantic partner potential.


2. When women see me, they can't see spending the rest of their lives with me.


3. What I offer don't match with what they want.


8.I can'tkeep up with their fantasy guy, who's always more *insert whatever here*, and always bigger (ok, not necessarily ) and better.


I knew I forgot the most important one....they don't feel the chemistry with me.
Hmmm! Sometimes I have this desire to live in SoCal. I have a feeling there would be some chemistry there.
- April 19th, 2009, 04:00 am
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I'm single because, after 23 and a half years of marriageI'm a widow.
- April 19th, 2009, 04:04 am
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winn wrote :

vapsman88 wrote :


PY wrote :


I'm single because:





PY, you know I am in pretty much the same position as you with some minor variations.


You have articulated it better than I could.


I am single, not because I want to be but because better to be single than in a bad relationship.


And I have been in bad ones unfortunately. The reasons below is probably why eHarmony did not work for me either.


1. I'm always the good friend, but never the romantic partner potential.


2. When women see me, they can't see spending the rest of their lives with me.


3. What I offer don't match with what they want.


8.I can'tkeep up with their fantasy guy, who's always more *insert whatever here*, and always bigger (ok, not necessarily ) and better.


I knew I forgot the most important one....they don't feel the chemistry with me.


Hmmm! Sometimes I have this desire to live in SoCal. I have a feeling there would be some chemistry there.
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The27thS, wrote :

I was curious as to what people's answers to this question might be. I am currently single because I have yet to meet anyone interesting.
This is my second go-round with eHarmony. Didn't know there was an online community with it. How nice!


I'm single for a few reasons: I wasn't ready to be somebody's wife until now, I wasn't terribly interested in marriage until now, andI refuse to settle for less than the best person for me, especially since I know how much I have to offer someone who won't settle, too. Contrary to what some believe, this doesn't mean I'm looking for someone perfect -he doesn't exist on this earth. I am looking for the best man for me, though.
- April 19th, 2009, 06:17 pm
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I'll go with the classic "I don't have time for a relationship because of my career." Oh, wait, I don't have a career yet... Make that b/c of college. I'm 25 and the majority of guys I'm around are younger than me. And in my age range, four years can seem more like 14 years.


Also, having a serious relationship hasn't really been at the top of my priority list. But I'm at a point right now where I'd really like some companionship. Not to mention all my friends are getting married and having kids. Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy for them. It just makes me feel like I'm missing out on something that could really make me happy.
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I've had other priorities. And been in the wrong places. But not so anymore. I'm not that old yet, either (relative to folks here, anyway), so I wanted to be sure of who I am, and give the women I might date time to figure themselves out as well.


Now I just need to meet the right person...it's just a matter of time.
- April 19th, 2009, 08:31 pm
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Good idea for a topic. Here's some of my list, which may repeat things already said. If so, my deepest apologies. Ok, here goes:


1. Women think I'm a nice guy and one they can trust. That's awesome, but they apparently don't trust me enough to give their hearts to. And they obviously don't want a nice guy, despite efforts to think/say otherwise. I'm not one of those nice guys who'd make a woman feel smothered. Believe me, I'm not even close to being that bad.


2. I'm supposedly a great catch and a great friend. Ok, that is a great compliment. But, can they look beyond me as more than a "great catch" and something with more substance than a "great friend" ??


3. I treat women they deserve to be treated: Like a woman. Now, I was raised to treat people the way you want to be treated. You would think women would be all over this trait. If so, where are they?


4. I've always wondered if, down the road, they discover I'm a virgin, that it'll all be over.


I have more stuff knocking somewhere around my brain, but that's four that're tops.
- April 20th, 2009, 12:00 am
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As my great-grandmother would say, "I'd rather be alone than have too much company." I'm alone, but I'm not lonely & for the most part, I love my life. It would take me finding someone that I can't see living without the rest of my life to change this.
- April 20th, 2009, 04:36 am
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I am single because NO LADY wants to be with a disabled man that doesn't work or drive a car and a man that is not good in bed after being in a coma for 2 and a half months......Years ago it used to be woman were saying that the only thing a man wants to meet for is sex, Well i have proof, Its the other way around, Its that woman are the ones that won't meet a man unless he is good in bed....All you females here IF you can make me see things defiantly and wouldn't mind being with a disabled man let me know about it... Before being disabled i was a full time Seafood cook at Cypress Inn in Monroe Louisiana and i am still a very good cook and love cooking.
- April 20th, 2009, 05:58 am
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