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wpr101 is offline wpr101 Post #1  April 7,2009, 8:47am
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I'm a software engineer, but I also play online poker semi-professionally. For the past three years I've made a large consistent income playing, over a very large sample size. So it's not exactly what people think of as "gambling".


However, I'm not sure how to bring this up to potential dates. Most women probably do not like gambling of any type, and it's difficult to explain to people who are not familiar with poker. Even people who have played poker casually don't really get it.


It's not just a hobby, because I am considering playing professionally. I don't want to hide things from people. I never really thought of it much till I had a friend tell me there's no way I should mention online poker until they find out about it inadvertantly.
 
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There's a time and place to tell information like this. Clearly you know whether or not you have a problem with "gambling". Sounds like this ISN"T the case so I would wait.


In the future, you could rent Rounders. Explain the mistake that MD made (playing for more than you can afford to lose). And then have her watch you play online. Give her running commentary.
 
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wpr101 is offline wpr101 Post #3  April 7,2009, 9:28am
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I've usually brought it up in the context of being part of my employment practically. Although I mention my job as an engineer first to people. I've never had a problem gambling before, and don't gamble on much else besides poker.


The thing is all of my friends and acqaintences know I'm a successful poker player...I guess it just feels strange not mentioning to people after I used to always mention it.


If I'm already at the stage where I'm watching a movie with someone alone,I don't think I'd have much trouble explaining. Also, people who watch me play are usually amazed because I play about 20 tables at onceonline, which looks extremely hectic. But I think early on it might scare some matches away.


I've atleast decided it's not getting mentioned in my EH profile though, even though I had it there for a long time, lol.
 
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Some people will take it the wrong way regardless of truth of the situation. Don't bring it up early.


When you do share, how about playing 1 or 2 tables? I know it's boring for you, but it'll give you a chance to explain the game and your passion for the challenge (NOT ADDICTION) of playing will come through.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #5  April 7,2009, 10:25am
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DDjr,567302 wrote :

Some people will take it the wrong way regardless of truth of the situation. Don't bring it up early.
DO bring it up sometime early on(within a few dates)...because of the fact that some people simply won't want to be with someone who does this. Don't waste your time or theirs putting it off too long.
 
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jayjay,567317 wrote :

DDjr,567302 wrote :


Some people will take it the wrong way regardless of truth of the situation. Don't bring it up early.


DO bring it up sometime early on (within a few dates)...because of the fact that some people simply won't want to be with someone who does this. Don't waste your time or theirs putting it off too long.
I disagree. This, to me, is something that will be more supportable the more establishment in the relationship there is.
 
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Some of us play fantasy football or baseball. As long as it doesn't dominate your life or make her feel left out, what's the problem ? Let her in a little at a time, just don't expect her to be as excited about it as you are.
 
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hazmat,567330 wrote :

Some of us play fantasy football or baseball. As long as it doesn't dominate your life or make her feel left out, what's the problem ? Let her in a little at a time, just don't expect her to be as excited about it as you are.
Yeah! what hazmat said....
 
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WPR101-you left the cat out of the bag already-it is on your profile (here).lol If you get passed a few dates with someone-tell them-some women and men do not want to be in a relationship were this is potential for an addiction. On the other hand, I enjoy going to AC twice a year to play Texas holdem but I would shy away from someone that I think may have a problem. (not that you do)
 
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DDjr,567329 wrote :

jayjay,567317 wrote :


DDjr,567302 wrote :


Some people will take it the wrong way regardless of truth of the situation. Don't bring it up early.


DO bring it up sometime early on (within a few dates)...because of the fact that some people simply won't want to be with someone who does this. Don't waste your time or theirs putting it off too long.


I disagree. This, to me, is something that will be more supportable the more establishment in the relationship there is.


You can try this....but the risk you're taking is that you're wasting both your own time and that of the person you're dating.
 
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