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my5cents is offline my5cents Post #1  March 28,2009, 9:28pm
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I'm in my early thirties and I often times feel like an old soul. I have thoughts and ideas of 2009, am youthful and fun, but my core values and beliefs are from long ago. I feel like I don't fit in with what many young people do these days which is to have fun by drinkng and partying. It makes it especially hard to date in Southern CA where that seems to be the main emphasis of social gatherings.

Don't get me wrong, I have wonderful friends and do fun things with them. I also like wine tasting, but don't drink in order to have fun or to get drunk. I'm just having a hard time finding a nice gentleman who has the same values as I do.

Whatever happened to curling up with a good book, discussing issues of the day and the world, playing cards/board games, taking walks, doing fun sports together, watching favorite tv shows and movies together, etc.? You know, good clean fun?


I guess what has sparked this thread is getting hit on both in person and on the internet by "party" guys who are my age or older and are still living it up like they're in a fraternity.

Oh and no I don't dress like a partier and my profile centers around my interests (such as the things I listed above). Anyway, does anyone else have this issue or feel like an old soul in this day and age?
 
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I agree with you! I definitely feel like an old soul at times. I prefer a quiet Saturday rather than a bar/club. I can't stand MTV and I absolutely avoid FM radio at all times. I don't consider myself a non-conformist by any measure (I dress normal, have a normal job, and carry on normal conversations) I just hate punishing my body by partying all the time.
 
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my5cents is offline my5cents Post #3  March 28,2009, 10:09pm
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Cincyfan04: Exactly. I have friends from all walks of life and yes, even some that like to party. They are friends so there are some activities I don't do with them and there is respect on both sides. I get along well with people of all ages, just having a hard time finding someone that I want to have a LTR with who has similar values and interests as I do. It's one thing to have a friend who may have different beliefs, it's a whole other ball game when you're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with.
 
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I'm in my early thirties and I often times feel like an old soul. I have thoughts and ideas of 2009, am youthful and fun, but my core values and beliefs are from long ago. I feel like I don't fit in with what many young people do these days which is to have fun by drinkng and partying. It makes it especially hard to date in Southern CA where that seems to be the main emphasis of social gatherings.

Don't get me wrong, I have wonderful friends and do fun things with them. I also like wine tasting, but don't drink in order to have fun or to get drunk. I'm just having a hard time finding a nice gentleman who has the same values as I do.

Whatever happened to curling up with a good book, discussing issues of the day and the world, playing cards/board games, taking walks, doing fun sports together, watching favorite tv shows and movies together, etc.? You know, good clean fun?


I guess what has sparked this thread is getting hit on both in person and on the internet by "party" guys who are my age or older and are still living it up like they're in a fraternity.

Oh and no I don't dress like a partier and my profile centers around my interests (such as the things I listed above). Anyway, does anyone else have this issue or feel like an old soul in this day and age?
Yep I'm in my mid 30s and I work with a bunch of mid-late 20s coworkers...I can go out and drink with the best of them, but there's always an underlying outlook on life that's just different...but it's cool to hang out with them on every other weekends....we did go out last night...and yeah I did feel old in a sea of nice good looking women (and younger guys) and here i was a bit chubby and in my 30s....but worry not the pounds will come off in a few months LOL.
 
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oh, i thought you meant something different by "old soul." i'm told that when i was born, the doctor said i had "old and wise eyes" - which i think meant something to do with awareness and tolerance, if you will.


but yes, i feel quite old fashioned. i believe in the little formalities and nice walks - as opposed to x-treme sports. for example, i use titles. my younger brother and all my younger cousins call our uncles by their given names, without "the uncle."


however, i think drinking is actually an old-fashioned value. "cocktail hour" et. al.
 
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I completely agree with what you're saying. Other than the occasional glass of wine, I don't drink. And the thought of going to a loud, crowded, smoky bar is my idea of a nightmare. I'd much rather have dinner in a quiet place and talk about world events or cook dinner and camp out on the couch with a book or a movie.
 
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I'm also not into partying/drinking but don't really feel like it's because I'm an 'old soul'. And I definitely look for this in a woman, along withother qualities.
 
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I have never been a bar kind of person. I feel completely out of place in that kind of environment. I briefly attempted to be more social in that way in my early college years, but it just wasn't me and pretty much fizzled out with my freshman semester.


I don't consider myself an "old soul", but I think it is probably more a result of my personality. I prefer smaller groups to large crowds. I enjoy good conversation and environments which foster that.


I think there are plenty of people that enjoy the same thing. I have met a good number of them.
 
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I guess I should say that the "old soul" comes not just in not partying, but I've been told I'm wise beyond my years, mature, etc. Doesn't mean I can't have a good ol' time though.
 
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my5cents,554080 wrote :

I guess I should say that the "old soul" comes not just in not partying, but I've been told I'm wise beyond my years, mature, etc. Doesn't mean I can't have a good ol' time though.
From childhood, I just seemed to be so aware beyond my years. Just as an example, I liked my parents music when I was 7yo. I related to older people on a lot of levels. I listened and learned from the wiser and older. I have always been very attentive and inquisitive.
 
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