lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #1  March 28,2009, 4:31am
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Great post zen, I’ll share a few of mine as well, no particular order.
Optimism – there’s always an upside to everything! Optimism keeps you looking up, out and forward . Pessimism tends to keep you looking down, and not much is happening at your feet.
Honesty/Authenticity – These go hand in hand for me. It’s not always easy for me to be 110% honest with myself, but I know the reward to that is it allows me to be honest and authentic to those around me (my kids, my family, friends, etc). And that’s worth it to me. In the end, I may not always get honesty, or authenticity back from others, but I stay true to myself and that’s the only thing I really have control over.
Humor/Fun – I remember being about 5 or 6 years old, the only little girl in the family at the time, all cutesied up for Thanksgiving dinner, looking like a little Princess, acting like one too, no doubt. Out of nowhere comes a big spoonful of mashed turnip that made perfect connection with my left eye. The roars of laughter were instant and deafening! I knew in that split second – laugh or cry – it would make all the difference in the world. I chose to laugh, and I’ve been finding the humor in things ever since.
Intuition – Whenever I’ve listened to it, I haven’t been steered wrong. Whenever I have ignored it, is when I’ve felt regret.
Love – all things have a driving force at the center. I choose to put love at the center of things. I figure if I make the conscious effort to do that, then however things turn out in the end, at least they’ll turn out more on the “good” side than the “bad” side. (Kind of a cute story – my kids do this now too, and my daughter burned brownies the other day, her younger sister said to her “But you started with love at the center, if you didn’t they’d be even grosser burned than they are now!&rdquo
Communication – without communication – all things are doomed. Simple.
 
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Hoo boy, i've really fallen off the tracks lately, zen. Thank you for this - i need to regroup...


Core Values:


Lead by example. It's the most effective way to teach, instruct, and set a legacy. And i don't ever know of a time it didn't garner respect.


Do what you have to do. This is my version of work ethic. This is movitation for making sacrifices and getting out of my comfort zone (which i burrow into deeply if time ever allows.) And if you make it a priority to "just do it," you will find a way .


Never ever ever forget about the world around you . This is your neighbourhood, your work place, your province/state, your country, and the global world. Practise compassion and understanding in these worlds. You're bound to need them in return at some time or another.


Laugh hard and often . There is too much amusement out there. And we're all a part of it.


Gratitude . Whoever said to count your blessings nailed it. Gratitude is the quickest way out of misery.


Support the underdog . And just get over ourselves already. i guess community is really important to me - stay in touch and share what you know and have.


Forgiveness... i don't know if this life time will be long enough for me to learn that one, zen. But i'm always working on it.
 
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zenmerlin, wrote :
I was thinking about Nelson Mandela the life he has lived and how he was able to maintain his sense of self despite being put in jail. This led me to look at my own core values. The way that I am defining core values is this, characteristics that make you who you are. These characteristics are things that have more than likely become stronger overtime and have guided you thru life. They are where you draw your strength from and will support you thru the most difficult of times.
Here are some of mine in no particular order. My sense of humor this is something that is constantly making my life more enjoyable. I often find myself laughing especially when I make a mistake. I believe that this gives me the strength to persevere. Forgiveness often times I find it necessary to forgive myself I try not to be too harsh on me. Self-reflection I spend a lot of time looking inside trying to understand this mystery of life and how I can improve. Being inquisitive my thirst for learning has caused me to go out on a limb more than once. Compassion not only for others but for me as well.
Gratitude this is one that is being developed, I have noticed the importance of this and I see how being grateful for who I am and what I have allows more to flow into my life.
These are a few of mine share yours if you dare!!!
Zenmerlin,


Nice reflective post. Nelson Mandela certainly is a positive role model for all of us black or white. I found it interesting how his former wife Winnie Mandela turned out to be such a shallow person & has disappeared from the scene along with a lot of legal troubles. Nelson, stood his ground & cowered nor bent his morals for anyone or anything. He has the heart of a lion.
 
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Live for that fact you are alive, and nothing on earth can replace your life.





Love and care for when you are hurt or alone, those things are there for you.





Honest and loyal, even if things are not good, you will know the truth and deal with them together.





Humorwill heal the deepest of wounds if you open your mind and allow yourself to smile.


Hope, will always give you the power to over come any thing that stands in your way.





Sorry, I just made those up......what do Iknow? I am a cat. MEOW!!
 
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I guess my top core value/personality traits that define me are....


Determination-I do not give up without a fight. I wont quit just because something is difficult, and wont give up until I solvea problem. I think this is very useful, in this world you need to be your own advocat. Without this trait, I probably would be worse off.


Ability to forgive but not forget- Whoever said 'forgive and forget' was a total idiot (in my opinion). I'm all for forgiving, but I'm not going to forget, history can and often does repeat itself. I know this sounds cold, but it's the most rational thing to do.For example, I forgave my ex for losing his temper and yelling at me, but I never forgot that incident, if I had forgotten, I'd still maybe in a bad relationship.


Be able to walk in someone elses shoes- How many times have we heard the saying 'why don't you take a walk in their shoes?' I think this is so true. To be able to understand others, I often think about what a day in THEIR life must be like, which often times puts things in prospective for me.


Trust/love- Trust and love go hand in hand, so I put them together. I don't really have much to say about them though, except that without trust we cannot love and without love we cannot live life to it's fullest and for me, what's the point of living a half life?


Creativity- Being creative allows me to find solutions to problems others can't and helps me express myself in a healthy way.
 
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zenmerlin is offline zenmerlin Post #6  March 28,2009, 7:01pm
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Core values[/b]
I was thinking about Nelson Mandela the life he has lived and how he was able to maintain his sense of self despite being put in jail. This led me to look at my own core values. The way that I am defining core values is this, characteristics that make you who you are. These characteristics are things that have more than likely become stronger overtime and have guided you thru life. They are where you draw your strength from and will support you thru the most difficult of times.
Here are some of mine in no particular order.
Sense of humor -[/b]this is something that is constantly making my life more enjoyable. I often find myself laughing especially when I make a mistake. I believe that this gives me the strength to persevere.
Forgiveness[/b]- often times I find it necessary to forgive myself I try not to be too harsh on me.
Self-reflection[/b] -I spend a lot of time looking inside trying to understand this mystery of life and how I can improve.
Being inquisitive-[/b] my thirst for learning has caused me to go out on a limb more than once.
Compassion-[/b] not only for others but for me as well.
Gratitude[/b]- this is one that is being developed, I have noticed the importance of this and I see how being grateful for who I am and what I have allows more to flow into my life.
These are a few of mine share yours if you dare!!!


 
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