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lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #1  March 27,2009, 8:02am
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“the guys on the advice boards have (in a way) ruined it a bit for some of the matches I got.”[/b]
That was a comment I made on a previous thread. And it’s something I’ve had cross my mind from time to time when reading through profiles, going through communication, etc. Having put more thought into it, I’ve come to realize why you’ve “ruined it” for some of my matches.
1) For those of you who have pictures (of yourselves) posted here (or those who have albums viewable to friends) you all have chosen GOOD, clear, appropriate photos.
2) You guys are smart! And articulate! And funny as all-get-out! And you can spell!
3) You put thought into what you want to say, and what you want to ask.
4) You don’t (usually) just ramble on about meaningless garbage, or go off on unprovoked tirades about your ex’s.
5) You can actually communicate with more than just one word answers. Or n/a, or ??? Or the ever popular “will get back to you on that one”
6) There usually isn’t the need to continuously dodge red-flagged flaming arrows when I read anything you’re writing about yourselves, your life, your experiences, your opinions, your outlooks.
7) Overall you present yourelves as good,decent men. Which, sadly, I have to say, so many of my matches can't seem to even manage that in a few sentences.
8) It seems, from what many of you have written, that you’re pretty clear about what you want out of a relationship, as well as clear on what you bring to the table yourself. Again, this is something I’ve found sorely lacking in many of my matches.
9) I’ve never felt the need to “block” any of you – here, or from any manner of contacting me because you’re just “that creepy”. Yet. (hahaha)

It’s crazy to say it, but I will admit that ‘hanging out’ on the boards with you guys, I feel like I’ve been spoiled when it comes to “guys online”. If you guys, on an advice site, are all-that-and-more when you’re not trying to date us, then the guys on the dating sites – who apparently *are* trying to date us – should be capable of at least coming into range.
Sounds snooty of me probably. This (has) will undoubtedly result in me being even pickier about which profiles get and keep my attention. But in the long run, that’s better anyways. So, thanks!



 
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Being articulate and witty in my eHa profile didn't do much for keeping anyone's attention, but it is good to know that there are a few women out there that do appreciate it. I suppose I'm picky too when it comes to analyzing profiles, but in six months I only had communication with three matches...two that disappeared and one that already had a boyfriend! Guess that's why I canceled my eHa subscription. However, I do agree that there are far more interesting people on the boards than there were for matches on the dating site. Oh well, that's how the cards fall sometimes. I hope you have better luck in the future!
 
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KRA_Z_1,550979 wrote :

Being articulate and witty in my eHa profile didn't do much for keeping anyone's attention, but it is good to know that there are a few women out there that do appreciate it. I suppose I'm picky too when it comes to analyzing profiles, but in six months I only had communication with three matches...two that disappeared and one that already had a boyfriend! Guess that's why I canceled my eHa subscription. However, I do agree that there are far more interesting people on the boards than there were for matches on the dating site. Oh well, that's how the cards fall sometimes. I hope you have better luck in the future!
I second that!!!! I have ment so many nice people and ask myself why do I not get matched up with similar ones on EH..I jsust do not get it...
 
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lucky173, wrote :
5) You can actually communicate with more than just one word answers.
Thanks.
 
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Complementary and Appreciative, you have my attention. I agree completely as stated above and have to ask whysimialr matches seem tonever evolve........ If I was 20 years younger I would be hopingto be a Match for you!
 
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Same can be said for the girls.


While you don't have the luxury of putting forth and demandingsome over-thought and unreasonablewants and diswants, you do have the sense of a real-world tangle with some real-world women acting they would in the real world, which gives you a real-world chance of finding someone you might actually click with.


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illustrator,551072 wrote :

lucky173, wrote :

5) You can actually communicate with more than just one word answers.


Thanks.
LOL


darnit, set myself up for this one good, didn't I
 
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lucky173,551095 wrote :

illustrator,551072 wrote :


lucky173, wrote :

5) You can actually communicate with more than just one word answers.


Thanks.


LOL


darnit, set myself up for this one good, didn't I
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illustrator,551072 wrote :

lucky173, wrote :

5) You can actually communicate with more than just one word answers.


Thanks.
hmm mmm mmmm Illy Illy Illy....
 
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Great Post, Lucky. I concur 100% that the EhA guys are fabulous!!
 
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