Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  March 27,2009, 5:43am
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PY while I can not speak from personal experience as this is not one of my many imperfections. However, looking around I would have to say that it really is not much of a problem. I suspect that this sort of imperfection would be much more of a problem during teenage dating years and becomes less of a concern to your matches as you both get older.


I also suspect that a great many of our imperfections are more in our own mind than what our matches see.
 
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PY is offline PY Post #22  March 27,2009, 9:22am

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Thank you guys for your posts!


I actually read a thread about 'attractive scars'...and yeah, while a little ruggedness added a sense of attractiveness for me, it didn't not include scars due to acne...but then again I've never been a rugged kinda guy to begin with , this is not to say I'm a dainty guy either though


Aaaaw...Ingy....I'm sure the scars look fine, I can inspect it from closer proximity if you want


Glass: Shoes?? LOL Don't get me goin' now.....


Tas: I'm ok with my scars...my friends definitelly do not mind...I'd say all my friends have virtually scar free skin, but of course this never affects our friendships since looks have never been the quality that I list as a good friend anyway. I just have to be careful in weeding through my matches...or maybe in a way they're weeding themselves out (for not only skin reasons..), and not worry about them.


Lucky: Yeah, I've never been too depressed about it actually since I always knew that I got other great things to offer (now, the fact that many of my matches didn't see them..that's an entirely different post). I did have my own 'insecurities' if you will, but not to a point it debilitated me from socializing, dating or anything like that...I used to know some people who were so psychologically incapacitated by this that they always stay home rather than making friends...and their skin was much better than me...and as I've mentioned earlier, this is more about a thing of my past, besides now I see that girls focus more on height than skin anyway LOLOL!!! and the secret crush list...


Lav: Oh you're lucky that yours got covered by Health Insurance...I spent maybe about a couple thousand dollars out of pocket to take care of the scars, the acnes, etc...and not a cent was covered...but that's ok...even though my skin is still far from perfect, it does look much healthier than before.


Gr8guy: Yeah, this is not bothering me at all...if any, my weight maybe bothers me more than the skin..but that's simpler to take care...I just cut down on my seasoned fries and beer I should be ok.


Thanks all for your posts!
 
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AsianFusion is offline AsianFusion Post #23  March 27,2009, 10:19am
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Don't worry, PY. "Rough skin" is just an indication of a real man . . .some women actually like it. Besides,everyone will eventually have to deal withskin issues(one way or another) as they get older,i.e., "age spots" and "wrinkles". Just be yourself and be happy . . . nobody is perfect!
 
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I'm going to comment on scars, in general. I think when we were younger, scars from injuries, surgery, acne, etc. were less common and therefore, more noticeable. However, in my 30's, I noticed more of the men I dated had scars... after spending the past 10-20 years skateboarding, hunting, camping, driving (auto accidents), trying todo their own home improvement projects, and having surgical procedures on joints injured in high school or college sports. Now, in my 40's, I might be surprised to date a man who didn't have any scars anywhere... and quitehonestly,some of the stories are very interesting (even entertaining).


I dated a guy who took mefishing onhis family's boat. He took off his shirt (it was like 90F that day), and he had quarter-sized scars on his abdomen/side. Being shy, I asked about the scars (which were obviously old). He explained that his appendix burst when he was a toddler, and there were all sorts of surgical procedures and drainage tubes to remove the infection from his little body. He joked that when he was in college, he told girls he met at the beach that he had survived a shark bite. [I watch Animal Plant, his scars didn't look anything like a shark bite.] He laughed and said that they weren't "smart girls, just girls".


I knowthere aren'tany funny stories to explain acne scars, but I don't think that most women are concerned with mild to moderate acne scars. Ifscarring is severe, consult a dermatologist[always get a second opinion before consenting to a surgical procedure]. There are numerous methods to reduce scar size, lighten skin discoloration, and lessen the visibility of dented or puffy scars. The important thing is to make yourself less self-conscious about your scars. Good luck!
 
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PY is offline PY Post #25  March 27,2009, 1:34pm

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Majority says: Don't worry. Majority wins.


Thanks AF...thanks Treatme
 
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My body is covered in scars from past operations. I am so shy to take my shirt off..like if I go swimming I will keep a shirt on.
 
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PY, I have a scar on my face, under and above my right eye. I've never had a guy (outside of elementary school) comment on it. It shows up in photographs more clearly than IRL. I've always thought a guy with a scar was more interesting than the "Brad Pitt" look that some of my friends like. And, as you know, I adore Jet Li ... and I could be wrong ... but doesn't he have some facial scars? But when Jet Li smiles all I see is a good looking guy that makes me smile, too.


I see an image in a photograph. But I see a person in real life. The way a guy moves and acts and sounds means a lot to a woman. These are kind of hard to explain. But I think true nature of a person "shines out" (sorry for the corniness) and makes some people better looking than others. A photo doesn't capture that ... but I would lay money on it PY, you've got the goods.


I just hope you are gentle with them! lol.
 
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PY is offline PY Post #28  March 30,2009, 8:35am

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clearlyoblique,555276 wrote :


PY, I have a scar on my face, under and above my right eye. I've never had a guy (outside of elementary school) comment on it. It shows up in photographs more clearly than IRL. I've always thought a guy with a scar was more interesting than the "Brad Pitt" look that some of my friends like. And, as you know, I adore Jet Li ... and I could be wrong ... but doesn't he have some facial scars? But when Jet Li smiles all I see is a good looking guy that makes me smile, too.


I see an image in a photograph. But I see a person in real life. The way a guy moves and acts and sounds means a lot to a woman. These are kind of hard to explain. But I think true nature of a person "shines out" (sorry for the corniness) and makes some people better looking than others. A photo doesn't capture that ... but I would lay money on it PY, you've got the goods.


I just hope you are gentle with them! lol.


LOL!!! Aaaaaw....you're cute too


Edit: Gentle with what? My goods?
 
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So are you guys sayin' I should be comfortable in my own skin? *badabing!* (sorry couldn't resist).
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #30  March 30,2009, 4:04pm
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My motto is pretty much fix it or forget it. If something makes YOU self conscious, then fix it if you can. If it doesn't bother you, then forget it. If another person has an issue with it then they aren't right for you.
 
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