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flip is offline flip Post #1  February 13,2009, 9:49am
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At some point in our lives,I think that we all feel lonely or a sense of loneliness. A sense or feeling that, even though we are generally happy, or, in good spirits, there just seems to be something lacking. Maybe asense of notfeeling "complete" or "whole". Could this feeling also bring on minor depression? I'm not talking about the kind of depression where one would be in a padded room, wearing a football helmet and a funny looking coat and the main diet staple being Prozac. But, a mere or minor sense of depression.


I'm curious to hear others replys. Every now and then I have the lonliness feeling creep up on me. But sometimes I feel a sense of depression that will follow. I really don't think that it's a "pity party for one". But more of a sense of not feeling complete or whole.


It (the loneliness bug) got ahold of me yesterday. Out of nowhere, it came from around back and just sucker punched me. I tried to keep busy to keep my mind active, but it still remained, though not as harsh. Today I feel somewhat better, but i still have a sense or feeling that someting is missing. I'm not feeling complete.


I hesitated writing this thread for fear that I might be classified as the type that I had mentioned earlier as a scenario. In general, I'mhappy and positive and have a good outlook on life. But every now and then.....................


How minor or severe are your "bouts" with loneliness? How do you deal or cope with them?
 
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Loneliness and depression are two separate things. But if we anguish over being lonely, it can make us depressed. We have to be willing to do something about our loneliness, sitting back with the woe me's will not help us.


Granted trying to do something where we are not lonely may not have immediate results. One thing that has helped me is to set out to make friendships with members of the opposite sex, just be where you can talk and nothing is expected and both is just being themselves. You may be surprized at how this works.


I am a firm believer that life is like playing cards, in the sense you have to make the best of the hand you are dealt.


The main thing is you have to be happy with yourself and accept yourself no matter what faults may be there.


I hope this has helped.
 
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I relate flip, with the exception of your comment complete or whole.


Feeling lonley is different than feeling lonesome. I feel lonesomeat times too.It isn't necessarily the lack of a SO, Heck, long ago I felt lonley in a crowded room. It was a dark place to be (in my mind)


Like you, I just kept busy, made plans with friends and family. I describe the lonesome feeling(s) as just in a funk(rut)..........


Oh I admitt that I would love nothing better than to have companionship(an SO) I'd be fooling myself if I didn't admitt that! I don't think it is unhealthy to experience (occasional) loneliness.


I'm glad you began this thread. I look forward to reading other posts.


P.S TWEET you bragger YOU! LOL!
 
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haaaaaa4what,485980 wrote :

It sounds gay, but shopping!!! Find the prettest girl working in the store and have her help you!
What a great idea!!
 
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Go join the CSC group. They will lighten you up and keep you company!
 
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I want to clarify as to what I was actually trying tosay during the OP.


I would like to know how others cope with being lonesome, (without a SO) and the feelings that that can bring about? How does it make you feel? What do you do so as not to be overcome or overwhelmed by those feelings of not having a SO?
 
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So do I flip. I'm going to keep checking for further posts
 
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flip, wrote :

At some point in our lives,I think that we all feel lonely or a sense of loneliness. A sense or feeling that, even though we are generally happy, or, in good spirits, there just seems to be something lacking. Maybe asense of notfeeling "complete" or "whole". Could this feeling also bring on minor depression? I'm not talking about the kind of depression where one would be in a padded room, wearing a football helmet and a funny looking coat and the main diet staple being Prozac. But, a mere or minor sense of depression.


I'm curious to hear others replys. Every now and then I have the lonliness feeling creep up on me. But sometimes I feel a sense of depression that will follow. I really don't think that it's a "pity party for one". But more of a sense of not feeling complete or whole.


It (the loneliness bug) got ahold of me yesterday. Out of nowhere, it came from around back and just sucker punched me. I tried to keep busy to keep my mind active, but it still remained, though not as harsh. Today I feel somewhat better, but i still have a sense or feeling that someting is missing. I'm not feeling complete.


I hesitated writing this thread for fear that I might be classified as the type that I had mentioned earlier as a scenario. In general, I'mhappy and positive and have a good outlook on life. But every now and then.....................


How minor or severe are your "bouts" with loneliness? How do you deal or cope with them?
flip....


Dont worry you are not alone.... You know there are a times that i feel how you feel. I worked with all doctors and I had ask this questions about your situation. Per to them its normal that we feel lonely sometimes.


As long thatin general you are happy and positive and have a good out look on life that means you are fine you are absolutely normal person.


Now.... here's my idea in your situation, you don't need to listen or do it but if you think its a good idea for you???? Call me maybe we can talk if it helps.... LOL.Maybe you just need some body to talk with.


Now I'm flirting with you!!!! hahahahaha.
 
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