Why Do Women All Seem to Want Taller Men?

Why Do Women All Seem to Want Taller Men?

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Why Do Women All Seem to Want Taller Men?


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sauturtle is offline sauturtle Post #21  December 5,2007, 6:04am
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I'm only 5'2" and for a long time never even considered height a factor in dating. Of course, I don't know that I ever met a man who was shorter than I am, so it was a none issue for me. However, I dated two men back to back who were 5'11" and then 6'1". Because it was often awkward to kiss, cuddle and especially in the bedroom, I made a specific effort to find a "shorter" man. My next boyfriend was 5'6" which for me was a perfect height, however not a perfect match. I am now engaged to be married and my fiance is 5'9". He thinks he's "short" but I think if he were any taller I wouldn't be happy. I think I may be the first woman to post a reply that Taller is not always better. However I do have to agree that I would probably feel awkward if my man was shorter than me, I just don't want him to be too much taller than me either. And I definitely think it is a two way street. Men prefer women who are shorter than them just as much or more so than women prefer men who are taller than them.
 
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revracer is offline revracer Post #22  December 5,2007, 6:12am
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As a guy who is 5-5, maybe I'll try heals to make me more attractive. Even with heals, I am still below average. Oh well. The article suggests a few reasons of why women prefer taller men and I wonder how those reasons speak to the modern western woman. Are we still in the dark ages (pre women's lib era) suggesting that a specific man will bring a sense of protection, security or power to the woman? If there is validity to this evolution, then let's speak to the reasons why that woman feels the need for those things. Are there evolutionary insecurities within a woman driving her towards a sense of protection, security or power? Why does that woman feel the need to be protected? One the flip side. Wouldn't it be advantageus and evolutionary for a short man to seek out a tall woman to help break the "short-gene" cycle. Hey, I'm just a short guy with more questions than answers seeking a very tall woman to break the short genes of my family. lol
 
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lovemixfaith is offline lovemixfaith Post #23  December 5,2007, 6:20am
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I'm 5'9' and have always felt that even a man would be uncomfortable dating me if I were towering over him. Generally, it's nice if he's at least my height, although, I have a lot of nice heels that puts that preference right out the door. However I must add, although there may be a positive correlation between height and earning potential, I do not think that those two factors combined at all are very predictive of earning. Possibly it depends on the occupation?
 
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Cougarita is offline Cougarita Post #24  December 5,2007, 6:28am
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I'm 5'10, and I'll be the first to admit that height is the first thing I notice in a guy. There have been so many amazing, wonderful guys who would have been great matches, but they're shorter, and I can't get over that. I don't think it's sheer vanity; it's that I don't want to feel like an Amazon woman forever. Some women can date shorter -- more power to them, but it's not for me. I love the feeling of being wrapped in the arms of a taller guy. It's reassuring. Thanks for the validation!
 
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Interesting article and equally interesting comments! I too am considered a tall woman at 5'9" and prefer dating men who are taller than me. The reason, I feel funny with someone who is shorter. I think I always felt that way and after reading the article it makes sense and am glad to put a reason behind my feelings, but I did date a man who claimed to be an inch taller than me. We met on line and when we met in person the first words out of his mouth were, "How tall are you?" I was honest about my height! Now I tell people I'm 5'9" FLAT FOOTED!! I wouldn't mind dating a shorter man if he was confident in himself and okay with the fact that I am tall-ish.
 
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I'm 5'10" without my shoes. I used to be self conscious about my height as a teenager but now I love it. I love wearing heels (flat shoes don't make a size 11 foot look great either!) I dated a man for 6 years that was 3 inches shorter than me. It worked but of course he didn't like my heels I now have no desire to be with a man who is shorter than me again. Yes it can work & there are more important things than height. However as a tall woman with a strong personality I want a man who is taller than me period. I would feel big & awkward with a skinny, short man. There is something to be said about how protected a woman feels when her man is taller & bigger than her. I don't understand why men have a problem with us wanting these things. I am not overweight but I am not a 'small' girl. I guess if us woman all looked like Barbie or the average anorexic role model we wouldn't have the problem of how we feel & think we look next to a shorter man.
 
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I'm 5'11" and love it! Putting on a pair of low heels makes me 6'1" tall. I must say it's nice to be able to look a man in the eyes not down on him like a child. I did try shorter men; both my ex's were shorter and this time around I would like to try a taller man. I don't think that's to much to ask. But, half of the matches that eHarmony has sent me are shorter. I'm sorry, men may enjoy "taking care" of some one 2-5 inches shorter than themselves but I don't. It would be nice to find someone of equal size!!
 
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in response to MLDILUNA, I am over 6'5" and I definitely do not consider tall women to be unfeminine (quite the contrary... it's a very good thing)
 
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amoelba is offline amoelba Post #29  December 5,2007, 11:01am
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I met my boyfriend on eharmony 2 years ago. He is 1 and 1/2 inches shorter than me. When I read his profile I wondered whether this would be a problem for him or me. Thank god it wasn't for either of us. He is the love of my life and I have never been happier. He makes me feel loved, supported, protected and adored and our hight difference has NOTHING to do with that! I can't believe people would pass up what we have found because of height!
 
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Amethyst is offline Amethyst Post #30  December 5,2007, 11:21am
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I met my husband on eHarmony. His profile stated that he was 5'8", but he is really 5'4". I am between 5'7" and 5'8". It is my understanding that eHarmony only matches couples where the man is taller; if my husband had been accurate about his height, we would have never met.
 
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