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cookiecookie is offline cookiecookie Post #61  May 23,2009, 4:18am
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I am over 50 and always enjoyed sex with my husband. As he developed physical health problems he grew more and more anxious that somehow that would make me love him less or that because I enjoyed sex I would seek it outside our marriage. Neither of these things happened but he became pretty obsessed with trying to make certain that he "could perform" including using medication. I appreciated his efforts and totally enjoyed sex when it happened but I always loved him even when sex wasn't a part of our lives. Discovering how to make adjustments in the sexual area is just like discovering how to make adjustments in all areas of our lives as we physically age - if we accept ourselves and those important to us as we really are then life and relationships are allot better.
 
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My grandmother is 93. My grandfather died about 12 years ago. She and my grandfather were sexually active right up until my grandfather's health began to decline about a year before that. She wore fishnets to his funeral -- because he always loved for her to wear them. I find this story beautiful. They were married for 60 years.
 
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I met the love of my life (thank you online dating) when I was 58 and he was 57. We had both been celibate for about six years after long and difficult marriages. It was instant chemistry and close to love at first sight. Sex was a learning process at first and "the experiments" full of joy, humor and passion as things progressed. We moved in together, much to the shock of my grown children, six weeks after meeting. We are both physically healthy and active people, but even still I think we might be unusual. We both love having sex with the other person, and unlike any and all past relationships, we have sex at least 5x a week now, and likely almost every day for the first two years. These are usually events of at least 45 minutes as my sweetheart is dedicated to finding out how to give me pleasure and I practice being focused and receptive. His openness and curiosity about what makes me tick I think is key. We like me in pretty skimpy things and are open to variety and experimentation. It is an absolute joy. I know I have friends who are simply not interested, and my 30 year marriage averaged about 2x a month, but I feel now as if I have arrived at my heart's home. Why do we do this?? We ask ourselves. Because it is mind-altering and brings a sense of joy and closeness and satisfaction I suspected was possible, but never knew I could find it at this late date. It has been three years now, we use words like "soul mate" and know we will be together well into old age. The goal is to stay fit and have as much sex and fun as possible. He tells me he is the luckiest man in the world. I feel like the luckiest woman.
 
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At 56 when I remaried , after being a widower with 32 years of experience with my first and only sex partner, "performance" was a concern. After about half a second in bed, I realized everyrthing was just fine. The 2nd marrage lasted about a month together, but not due to this topic. No, after the honeymoon the desire was not twice a day, every day. 5-8 times a week was enough for her and I would have been fine with less. Snuggling and closeness were more important than the 3 second tingle. I still have no idea why my skin has got loose, or why my hair has gray in it. Still, I feel like the same punk at 18 as I always have. That is part lucky genes, part working out and part denial, giggle.
 
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