Let us dispel a myth: All women are not fragile in need of self-worth stroking. So go ahead, say what you want and not what you think she wants to hear!
Except, don't forget to admire her shoes and give her jewelry for special occasions.
I agree with what you say about communications but sometimes what is said and what really happens are two different matters. An example would be how to handle the finances. Both parties reach an agreement but then down the road one party changes theagreement or totally breaks it.
In this type of situation no matter how much you communicated and how well your trust would take a beating creating cracks in the relationship.
I'll expand on this in the event it helps anyone out there.
In theory my ex and I made agreements about spending money. And then she'd get a pedicure, an expense that I thought was totally outrageous. And we'd have a subsequent "disagreement" about it. However, if she would have communicated what it meant to her, the psychic value, I could have seen that and we could have come to some sort of compromise on the expense. Without communication, all I saw was $$$$$$$$$$$ and broken agreements.
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Agree. Given where you are emotionally, I would cease all communication with Mr. Trade Show. You're vulnerable. He's up for a challenge. It's playing with fire. You'll be in a bad place in the ... –
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I have never spoken to a woman like he has.
Yeah, I have never spoken to a woman like that either.
It is a hard call to whether he is just as jerk, or whether he is a player.
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I was ok until the kiss on the cheek part....That doesn't sound like your defenses were up at all...
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No. It is not wise.
You have to throw all your eggs into one basket for love to work at all. Relationships are inherently riskier than careers. You can't use the same rules.
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Do you have something completely stupid to talk about? Come here. Talk. It's a simple two step process. Please have a good sense of humor about all this. It is good for the heart.
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