What the Evolved Man Wants to Hear from You

What the Evolved Man Wants to Hear from You

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scorpio is offline scorpio Post #11  January 23,2009, 10:38am
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angelofmerci,447346 wrote :

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The article was interesting, on target and realistic in that it pointed out the need for communication in a relationship. If a couple were able to speak to each other in this manner, the foundation of the relationship would be solid. Communicating this way would also build the trust that is so vital to the growth of the relationship.


I agree with what you say about communications but sometimes what is said and what really happens are two different matters. An example would be how to handle the finances. Both parties reach an agreement but then down the road one party changes theagreement or totally breaks it.


In this type of situation no matter how much you communicated and how well your trust would take a beating creating cracks in the relationship.
I agree with you. With everything being relative, my comments would certainly not apply to everyone.


Whenever there is adiscrepancy betweencommunicationand behavior, a lack of integrity is shown and there is a breakdown of trust. However, some couples do communicate honestly and follow through in their behavior.
 
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I am glad to have read this article, What The Evolved Man Wants To Hear From You.


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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

Let us dispel a myth: All men are not cavemen in need of ego stroking. So go ahead, say what you want and not what you think he wants to hear!
Ya know every since guys discovered they have opposable thumbs, it's been easier to open doors for women.


I did like the article and it's interchangeable with both genders. I do, however, enjoy some of the traditional manifestations of dating and being in a relationship . . . go figure, I'm probably one of the oldest women here. I appreciate a kind man with a sense of etiquette that I can have fun with and also feel comfortable and safe with. These qualities don't diminish the ability to have intelligent conversations and be compatable and "real" with.
 
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Songryder,448951 wrote :

I did like the article and it's interchangeable with both genders. I do, however, enjoy some of the traditional manifestations of dating and being in a relationship . . . go figure, I'm probably one of the oldest women here. I appreciate a kind man with a sense of etiquette that I can have fun with and also feel comfortable and safe with. These qualities don't diminish the ability to have intelligent conversations and be compatable and "real" with.
Do you really think this is interchangeable with both genders? When D_Lion made the comment reversing this: "Let us dispel a myth: All women are not fragile in need of self-worth stroking. So go ahead, say what you want and not what you think she wants to hear!" you didn't find this humorous or even absurd? Example: see the 'Do you think I'm fat?' thread. How many women who ask this want the man to tell her what he reallythinks and not what she wants to hear? I don't think it's very many.
 
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I think this aricle is quiet very interesting..... and I wish that all men has somehing to say when they noticed tath you didsomething good for them. There's a lot ofmen out there that they just don't have nothing to say even though they knew that you did good for them. I think there is only 25% of menright now that are nice and will say something nicetowards to women.
 
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I rewrote the notes in the context of "what we want to hear from each other" to get a bead on what an evolved relationship might be like. There are some really good reminders for what we need to practice in ourselves, and what to look for in a mate. Thank you.
 
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I think honesty is the best policy. I'll take my lumps in the name of truth. Sometimes you just have to be judicious in how you share your opinion, but I think the truth is always best. Has this sometimes drawn the ire of women? Absolutely. But the strong women out there will prefer the truth, I am confident of that.
 
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Well,to be quite honest,sex and food and sleep are all VERY appealing...however-so is a good conversation.I think a lot of women (especially from earlier generations) somehow were given the false idea that men find it attractive if they "dumb down".Well, that's certainly not true with me or most guys I know.Intelligence and a great sense of humor arebig turn-ons.
 
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Is this serious. Are you sure we're not talking about What the Gay Man Wants to Hear from You.
 
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I agree totally. A guy does not want to hear a bunch of words that you ramble on... he wants you to get to the freaking point. i.e.... I think you talents are wonderful and it is too bad that the other people dont see that... they want to hear: those other people are stupid for not agreeing with you.
 
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