Dating Older Men: 8 Things you Need to Know


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Your match settings may mean that you'll date a man who's older than you. If you're open to dating an older man, consider these things first.
 
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1. Remembering to ask his doctor for a prescription to Viagra


2. Yearly recertification for CPR and the AED just in case.


3. He’s eligible for a senior citizen’s discount at restaurants.


4. He and your dad may end up being closer then you and he will.


5. He may accidentally talk about events that occurred before you were even born.


6. He may forget your name once in awhile… as well as who he is… and where he’s at…


7. In a couple more years, you’ll have some extra cashing coming in from Social Security checks.


8. AARP stands for “Association for the Advancement of Retired Persons”.
 
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9. You might have to change diapers again.


10. You will have to drive him around because he doesn't have a driver's license.


11. You will become his only friend.
 
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You are a cynical lot
 
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Wow this article's a real downer - I was already kinda depressed about this whole "dating" thing and this is not helping. I'm in my mid 40's and would prefer someone my own age or a bit older....but at this rate....jeeeez what's a girl to do ???? ****I'd add a sad emoticon but the damn thing's not working**** (
 
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OK, OK, I know you young'uns are enjoying the geezer jokes, but let's just be clear: people are living longer lives, and most senior citizens do not develop dementia. And, no one knows how long anyone will live.


I've always been very conscious of this because of my mom's history. At 21, she married a healthy 23 year old. At 26, she was widowed when he died of ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease). She had spent the better part of 2 years caring for him as his body slowly deteriorated. At 33, she married a 50 year old. People told her she was going to end up taking care of him, and the younger brother of her first husband solemnly told her that there would be no physical relationship with a man that age (I was born two years later, and have always derived a certain satisfaction out of knowing thatmy existenceproved him wrong, at least once - the guy's a bit of a jerk). They had 29 terrific years together, when Dad died suddenly. She never had to take care of him. Just goes to show, you never know.


I'm dating a 55 year old. Obviously, I don't know how long he will live, but I am enjoying making him, in his own words, "feel like a teenager " again.
 
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graceventually,336082 wrote :

OK, OK, I know you young'uns are enjoying the geezer jokes, but let's just be clear: people are living longer lives, and most senior citizens do not develop dementia. And, no one knows how long anyone will live.


I'm dating a 55 year old. Obviously, I don't know how long he will live, but I am enjoying making him, in his own words, "feel like a teenager " again.
Grace, i'll date ya, you're a lil hottie!!! and you're from my hometown too =o))
 
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There is reality, and this applies to younger men dating older women - same applies. For myself, I am 67, active, alert, solving the joint problem, and not wanting to date women much younger than 5-6 years than me. The difference in age does mean a lot of different priorities as one was growing up - what is fondly called the generation-gap. At one time I thought that would go away as one aged, but it doesn't seem to be that way. Actually, I find me being more open to more ideas, thursting to learn how tohave fun and a happy life and relationships, and learning a lot about why I am like I am and working on changing it. I'd recommend to anyone the Ruiz books named The Voice of Knowledge and The Four Agreements. For myself, I prefer the audio tapes.
 
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I like dating older men for exactly the reason, "set in his ways", mentioned in the article. I know just what to expect from an older (I'm 54) man because he's "been there, done that" and made decisions about how he wants to live his life and what he expects from it. I like knowing where I stand and that we don't have to "meld together". I also like knowing where we are coming from financially. I have my pension, he has his retirement plan and I know if he has children to support or alimony to pay. There are fewer "unknows" with older men and I can anticipate the health issues. Was married to a guy 12 years younger and that was not a good place to be. He was clueless about life and wanted a mom to take care of his responsibilities... not going there again!
 
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LonelyStarState,336508 wrote :

graceventually,336082 wrote :


OK, OK, I know you young'uns are enjoying the geezer jokes, but let's just be clear: people are living longer lives, and most senior citizens do not develop dementia. And, no one knows how long anyone will live.


I'm dating a 55 year old. Obviously, I don't know how long he will live, but I am enjoying making him, in his own words, "feel like a teenager " again.


Grace, i'll date ya, you're a lil hottie!!! and you're from my hometown too =o))
awww....thanks. But I think the aforementioned 55 year old has "dibs".
 
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