WeDesignOurLives is offline WeDesignOurLives Post #1  November 9,2008, 6:05am
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What do you do when you're anger? (And what makes you angry?) Is it better to 'get it all out' or are we making mountains out of molehills most of the time?


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if a woman makes me anger, i spank her.


if i make a woman anger, she usually beats me up


does anger management training work? hmm... i doubt it since one is either neurotic or 'normal' by nature.


now... operant conditioning on the hand... that works
 
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I have a punching bag that's quite good for anger relief. Aside from that, any violent video game works for me. All I have to do is decapitate a few people in the game, and I can't stop smiling. I don't see anything wrong with getting anger out in a safeway. Anger is unpleasat and causes you to make mistakes you wouldn't otherwise make, so it's best to get rid of it ASAP in my opinion.
 
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It's been years since I've been angry at anyone other than the occasional doofus at work... and I can normally find someone to vent to who is just as irritated by that person as I am. Works for me.
 
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WeDesignOurLives, wrote :

What do you do when you're anger? (And what makes you angry?) Is it better to 'get it all out' or are we making mountains out of molehills most of the time?


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First of all you need to understand what pushes your buttons and then learn to deal with it without going postal. Channeling anger and "choosing" to be angry is one thing, but going off in a rage is quite another. Name calling, throwing things, threatening someone, etc. and physical abuse, of course, are all not good ideas nor do they solve anything. If anything, it compounds the problem.


I dated a guy (briefly) who would just go off like that and then he was fine . . . but he "dumped" it on everyone else, including me so of course he felt fine. Words can be as bad as physical abuse, don't kid yourself.


I need space when I'm angry. I need to walk away, calm down and then come back and be able to sit down and be able to talk about the issue in a way that it problem solves rather then exacerbates the problem. Mole hills only become mountains when you start shoveling more shit on them. Anger isn't a bad thing . . . it's a message that action needs to be taken but it doesn't give a person permission to degrade, humiliate or harm another.
 
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I put Preparation H in their toothpaste tube to get even.
 
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When someone makes me angry, I bury them up to their necks on the ocean beach at low tide. Then, pull up a beach chair and sip on my Dr. Pepper as I watch the tide roll in.


On a more serious note, habitually abusive people tick me off a LOT.
 
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I ran an emotion management group with some boys in my school last year. The point we dealt with was that anger is only an emotion. It is not wrong in and of itself, in fact, it has led people to make social changes that have made a positive difference for many people in our world. Anger management has to do with choice. When we can recognize anger as only an emotion then we can ask ourselves what we want to do with our anger and how we can turn it to positive good.


All the boys were artsy, musically or otherwise so I drewtwo pictures using all the colours but black. I talked about the "acceptable emotions" as I drew and tied the colours to some of those acceptable emotoins. Then I tied the idea of the black crayon to anger and talked about how I could choose how to use it. On one picture I scribbled the picture out with the black crayon. Needless to say, the boys were shocked because they had thought is was pretty good. On the other picture I used it to outline and deliniate shadows, enhancing the picture. One boy began colouring when he was angry, using colours to reflect the different emotions he was feeling. Another boy made a poster that said, "Anger can be a bomb, but you have control of the fuse."


I think I learned as much as the boys in that group and for the most part, I see efforts to make better choices instead of reacting to anger in them. I also find myself allowing myself to feel anger and other "unacceptable" emotions but just choosing how I will express them to use them in the most positve way possible.
 
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Altair,334863 wrote :

I put Preparation H in their toothpaste tube to get even.
hahahahah... ?? EEWWW! HAHAHAHA!!!
 
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