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petalpusher is offline petalpusher Post #1  September 25,2008, 8:02am
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I have been on EH for longer than I amcare to admit. I haven't done too bad on the matchingeven if I haven't found a match that has worked out yet and there are dry periods. But a funny thing happened through the process of rewriting my info time and time again in the hopes of writing something about me that could interest someone else enough to respond. I do believe I am learning more aboutmy authentic self. Before I didn't really have any major life goals but now I am finding that I am forming some very clear and interesting ones. Through communicating and meeting matches I have clearer boundaries. I have a tougher skin, when a match closes that I really had hopes for I morn for a short bit then mentally call out "next!" I was never that good with the meeting men but I have been able to get practice here in a fairly safe way.


A lot of people rant and rave that they get nothing from this site but I am finding that though I still haven't found "the love of my life" I am finding "my love of life again". Funny, I never saw that coming.
 
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In life we tend to find what we are looking for. If you keep looking for what's good you will find it in any situation. Even though Eharmony hasn't given you exactly what you originally set out to find, it sounds like you have found a lot more than you bargained for along the way. My EH and EHA experience has been very similar. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]
 
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petalpusher, wrote :

I have been on EH for longer than I amcare to admit. I haven't done too bad on the matchingeven if I haven't found a match that has worked out yet and there are dry periods. But a funny thing happened through the process of rewriting my info time and time again in the hopes of writing something about me that could interest someone else enough to respond. I do believe I am learning more aboutmy authentic self. Before I didn't really have any major life goals but now I am finding that I am forming some very clear and interesting ones. Through communicating and meeting matches I have clearer boundaries. I have a tougher skin, when a match closes that I really had hopes for I morn for a short bit then mentally call out "next!" I was never that good with the meeting men but I have been able to get practice here in a fairly safe way.


A lot of people rant and rave that they get nothing from this site but I am finding that though I still haven't found "the love of my life" I am finding "my love of life again". Funny, I never saw that coming.
I agree. But for this to happen, one must be at least honest with oneself. I have discovered many of my passions and realized what I thought I wanted was not what I really wanted. Go figure!
 
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I'm finding the same thing, no real 'Match' so far, but I'm meeting some good people on the boards.
 
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I do believe that I amsteadily evolving into what I am looking for.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]
 
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petalpusher, wrote :

A lot of people rant and rave that they get nothing from this site but I am finding that though I still haven't found "the love of my life" I am finding "my love of life again". Funny, I never saw that coming.
Bravo.
 
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I too have found out some things about myself and also those around me.


I have determined that if you have put something akin to "live life to the fullest" in your profile we are not going to be a good match because you just don't "get me".


Through all the people here on the Advice boards I have found that I am more complex than I thought. A couple have figured out what I am really about, there are a bunch that think they know what makes me tick and there are a few that just still haven't a clue and probably never will. Regardless, I am happy to share this space with all of you.
 
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congratulations PetalPusher [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
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Online dating has revealed that I'm not comfortable marketing myself like a loaf of bread on a shelf. I don't care to shout 'pick me! pick me!', like a puppy waiting to be adopted. I want to be chosen because someone came looking for someone exactly who I am.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #10  September 26,2008, 5:46am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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petalpusher....it's great that you've gained something really positive from your eH experience! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img] I too feel like I've gained something....both from dating in general, using eH and eHA as well... in that these have helped me clarify what I really want and what is important to me. Best of luck in the future!
 
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