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sabete2002 is offline sabete2002 Post #261  November 11,2008, 4:01am
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DennisWisconsin,335155 wrote :


I imagine other people out there with similar stories, especially in these hard times, so I will confess...

I have lived many years with less hair but my own real fear of rejection is of a financial nature. Now I know that many of you say that this is no one’s business - especially in the beginning of a relationship – but I don’t want to be headlong into a nice relationship with someone I really like and then lay this on them or have them ditch because of it.

After being in business for 17 years, bankruptcy took my home and my life savings. This of course included all retirement money and equity. I have since rebuilt my life by going back to school, searching for and finding a new career, and I have paid off all my debts. I owe no one.

I have a plan but nothing can really erase twenty years of hard work and the loss of the equity that followed. I thought I was done telling this story years ago but now that I’m dating again, here it is resurrected.

While I have a good position that I’m happy with, the fact remains that I am starting from scratch retirement wise. I just can’t see past asking someone to share that burden.


+1 to neardc's comment. That's a pretty amazing story. Be proud.
 
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last12C,335318 wrote :

DennisWisconsin,335155 wrote :



I imagine other people out there with similar stories, especially in these hard times, so I will confess...

I have lived many years with less hair but my own real fear of rejection is of a financial nature. Now I know that many of you say that this is no one’s business - especially in the beginning of a relationship – but I don’t want to be headlong into a nice relationship with someone I really like and then lay this on them or have them ditch because of it.

After being in business for 17 years, bankruptcy took my home and my life savings. This of course included all retirement money and equity. I have since rebuilt my life by going back to school, searching for and finding a new career, and I have paid off all my debts. I owe no one.

I have a plan but nothing can really erase twenty years of hard work and the loss of the equity that followed. I thought I was done telling this story years ago but now that I’m dating again, here it is resurrected.

While I have a good position that I’m happy with , the fact remains that I am starting from scratch retirement wise. I just can’t see past asking someone to share that burden.








enoughsaid.
And that says quite alot about who you are as a person. And I agree with neardc, last12c and sabete. You should be very proud of yourself for all you accomplished. As for your last statement, I wouldn't see that as a burden but as a strength of character.
 
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DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #263  November 11,2008, 4:17pm
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Thank you for your kind words... I appreciate them all... Sorry I posted such a serious thing here .... You guys were having fun before I muffed it up...


I confess...


something tomorrow... lol
 
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MudSlideSlim,337790 wrote :

I was a bigamist. 10 years, 3 months. Married to the mother of my children for 14-1/2 years. Married to the Navy for 26 years.
Do I not know a sailor who isn't/wasn't married to the Navy?
 
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May I say that typing in questions is addictive?


May Iconfess that I found out why I am having such a hard time getting healthy, and it is terrifying to me, but I am determined to accomodate the health issues, and conquer it in the end?


Can I confess that the polish on my toe nails badly needs to be redone; and it will still need to be done tomorrow?


Can I confess that eHa is full of wonderful people; and I do not understand why some of them don't realize how truly great they are? Can I say that I truly feel blessed to be able to get to know them?


Can I confess that I am going to try to get an appointment with a career counselor today? Can I say that I am hoping he or she can point me in a direction that I have not been able to think of on my own?


Can I say that I never change my contacts when they are supposed to be? Can I confess that I forget when I changed them, and so when my eyes are burning despite the use of my contact drops, is when they get changed?


Can I confess that my son lights up my life? And that I have found I would rather be playing with him than dating the men I have met this year? Could that be why I am single? That the intelligence and charm of my 4 year old exceeds the men I've been meeting? Is that not hilarious and sad at the same time?


Can I ask if anyone has noticed I posted entirely in questions? Didn't I warn you the questions thread was addictive?
 
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