Why do you expect him to report all his activities to you as if you were his mother and he was 10?
I think a general expectation in any genuine relationship is that both people will be transparent in their activities. It's the only way trust is built.
The problem seems to be that the OP is assuming they are in a relationship when, in fact, she has not confirmed this.
The other - assuming that if you are revealing details the other person will - this is just a trait of communication that women engage in more frequently than men. If a female friend reveals something personal in detail, I tend to match that detail of revelation. But assuming that someone will communicate the same way you do is a mistake. There are all sorts of communication styles. Figuring out the other person's style and working with that is more useful than assuming they communicate the same way you do.
Personally, I would probably pass on a man who, after this much time, was being less than transparent in his behaviors and was being this slow about stating his intentions with me (and then doing the things that validate those intentions) but that's just me. It certainly isn't a model everyone should follow. I do think it's time for a serious conversation here, though.
Last edited by littlebluemonkeymind; March 20,2010 at 7:52am.
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