You certainly aren't a lost cause. It sounds as if you've received some good advice already. I can't disagree with anything that's been said. Flirting can be fun. I don't know if that will take you all the way to a date, but it certainly can take you to getting a cup of coffee. That's a sort of date. Look to enjoy and share your enjoyment. Didn't you say you were silly in your profile? It's good to keep things light. Take a walk in the park. Sit on some swings and talk. I wouldn't put too much emphasis on finding someone attractive if attractive is based heavily on the visual. But if attractive means someone who is fun and /or funny and /or charming, that sounds pretty good. Share yourself and don't worry too much about all the serious stuff like jobs and prospects and living arrangements. That's so personal really. Just play a while, perhaps.