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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #5  November 7,2009, 10:01am

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scarlet13 wrote :
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Hi I have read several topics or posts about orgasms in LTAS, but I am curious if the discussion included a man who can not "get there". Well, that's me! I'm 38 years old, FYI. Absolutely heterosexual--if it matters.
I'm curious about one thing in particular: Should I tell a new partner about this "problem" BEFORE the big event? I would never want her to feel that it has or had anything to do with her-- as it it has happened (or NOT!!! sigh) with every woman I've been with. It seems the ones I tell beforehand seem to understand and it's no big deal.
On the other hand, it could make the relationship change dramatically as it has seemed to kill the moment for some. I'd like to know how women would REALLY feel about this unusual situation.
Well I hope there is a question in there somewhere! I do like to be considerate with my partner, so any comments from a woman's perspective will be great.
Thanks
I am actually concerned that there may be some physical problem causing this. Obviously I am not a guy so my knowledge of how the equipment works is somewhat limited.

As a women knowing that it is a problem wouldn't bother me but yes you would want to disclose this before hand. I think the main concern would be do you still derive pleasure from the act. Perhaps how to create more pleasure for you. Otherwise I think I would feel guilty like well this is all about me.
 
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