A few months ago I started dating a lady who has been divorced for 8 years but has had a few relationships in that time. Her last romance ended by him pushing her away and cutting off all communications. Just before they started dating, his wife died of Cancer. She blamed herself for what ever reason I suppose or thought that it was just another relationship that just wasn't meant to be.
Recently, she said that she has figured out that it was nothing personal and that he just hadn't had the proper time to grieve. More about this later.
Anyway..all was going well with us except maybe we were moving a little too fast. We both had our concerns about that but didn't have any trouble communication to each other about it.
She has two amazing 16 year old twins that I have become attached to as well as her parents and friends. I know they were getting attached to me also.
Everything seemed like a Fairy Tail for awhile and we always looked forward to seeing each other on the weekends.
The last few weeks it seems, that I'm now the one being pushed away. I barely hear from her and her e-mails and text messages are very brief if I get any response at all.
She says that she is just very busy because she has some issues and concerns to get through and just needs a break. She says that I should just leave her alone, if we are to ever have a chance together. But I haven't been pestering her and have respected her wishes.
One of her issues is that she has feelings for her previous romance and hasn't been able to move forward. He has recently been texting and e-mailing her once again.
I don't know what to do. They had many months together and we just had a few. I can't compete.
Is she wrong? Am I the one that doesn't get it. Am I wrong?
Is she emotionally unstable and mixed up? Should I move on and try to forget about her?