Anonymous Poster asks:

Hi I have read several topics or posts about orgasms in LTAS, but I am curious if the discussion included a man who can not "get there". Well, that's me! I'm 38 years old, FYI. Absolutely heterosexual--if it matters.
I'm curious about one thing in particular: Should I tell a new partner about this "problem" BEFORE the big event? I would never want her to feel that it has or had anything to do with her-- as it it has happened (or NOT!!! sigh) with every woman I've been with. It seems the ones I tell beforehand seem to understand and it's no big deal.
On the other hand, it could make the relationship change dramatically as it has seemed to kill the moment for some. I'd like to know how women would REALLY feel about this unusual situation.
Well I hope there is a question in there somewhere! I do like to be considerate with my partner, so any comments from a woman's perspective will be great.
Thanks