I have to ask was the cologne called black panther?

ok so that was a little below the belt. Um so personally since you're putting this much thought and effort . . . . And defending yourself there are some self esteem and confidence issues there. . . .

Personally if you absolutely feel perplexed why not simplify by unthinking this whole deal.

Simple answer something turned her off and she was polite, obliged a kiss and moved on . . . .

Good luck with the next date