Thats not the way it works. If you are the "nice guy" or "good guy" to the "emotionally healthy" women then they dump you after the first date. The type of woman you talk about has no respect for the "nice guys" of the world. If the woman you are seeing does turn out to be insecure or thriving on drama then it is time to finish the relationship. I have found that being "nice guy" is a road to nowhere and being less nice and making the woman work harder for the relationship reaps great benefits, i.e. she actually wants to stay with you and is much happier.
It is not game playing, it is a fundamental shift in attitude.
By the way, I am still good to these women, just not in the "nice/good guy" mold.
Nice guys finish last because women quite rightly hold them in contempt.
nice guy= weak.
Don't confuse nice guys with good men.
What you say applies to the nice guy, but not the good man. The behavior I was commenting on was the behavior of a jerk. You were promoting game playing and 'being mean to keep them keen'. Healthy women don't tolerate game playing and meanness.
The world isn't made up of dichotomies where there are only nice guys and jerks to choose from. There are plenty of decent men that don't fall into either category - and those are the ones that a healthy woman goes for. Nice guys and jerks are just the flip side of the same coin.
Emotionally healthy women want an emotionally healthy man. The 'nice guy' isn't emotionally healthy, so of course she doesn't want him. But she doesn't want the game-player either. An emotionally healthy woman values emotional health and integrity in her partner.
Last edited by peg099; November 6th, 2009 at 04:37 pm.
- November 6th, 2009, 04:17 pm