I have run into this "legally" still married issue way too much myself. I just don't get it. It's a yes or no question. Are you married or are you not married? Period.

Only once was someone brutally honest about it and due to the special circumstances and the open discussion, I decided to proceed in a limited way. Totally regretted it.

Let people finish the past before they start the present.


** Lying about it would be (and has been) an automatic dealbreaker for me.