Thank you for the advice! When I was looking for information about scams on eharmony I didn't come across any that had the tour guide approach. Maybe it is a new one. Or maybe he is a normal guy and I am over thinking. Any other tips on how to spot the scammers? I know the one about if they immediately tell a sad story, or are recently widowed. But this guy never told a sad story. His profile mentioned no sad story. And his grammer was perfect. Could it be possible that he is telling the truth? I wish I had specific things to look for.


I hope this is ok for me to do... here is what he wrote:

"Message: Hi bella8bella, Finally we got through the questions. Thanks for sticking it out. I was saying that I joined to eHarmaony to meet somebody to chat about your city and maybe show me the sights. Also, I'd like the company. I am from South Africa visting the US to see where I might want to relocate. Got a Green Card and currently in Jacksonville, FL - not much happening here. Doing tourist activities and walking around in a new city can give you a sense, but doesn't really tell the whole story. I can imagine somebody visiting the game parks and beaches in SA, but it is a very different reality living there. I hope that you're not upset or disappointed after all that effort, but if I realised eHarmony had this 'guided communication', I wouldn't have joined. It over-complicated things a bit. So, what do you think?"

Could I possibly be over-reacting or am I naive?