I've seen a few ladies lately posting that they're confused by things their guys have said to them.

Speaking only for myself, I get confused sometimes too and almost invaribly, here's how it all plays out.

He says something that's kind of like a "huh???" for me.

I let it go (or, try to) and then end up thinking about it....trying to interpret, imagining everything from the very best case scenario to utter disaster.

Finally, I come out and ask him. Usually he's:

-surprised that I was confused about it (because he thought he was really clear)

or

-sad that I spent so much energy worrying about it vs. just asking for clarification right away

and

-happy to answer any questions or talk things over more so that we reach the point where we understand each other

In the end I'm always amazed at:

-how easy it was for me to get the clarification I needed

and

-how often the reality was much closer to the "best case scenario" than "utter disaster".

(It should be noted that I've still done this far too often considering these lessons I've learned about this -- but I'm really planning to be better about it once I have a guy to practice this "come right out with it" approach with! ).


Now, on to my questions for the guys:

-Has this happened to you in your dating / relationships?

-Generally have the women involved been needlessly worried about things in these scenarios?

-Are you: surprised, put off, or welcoming of very direct questions about things you and yours might have discussed which were not completely understood on her end?

Goal of this conversation is to help women be more confident in communicating with the men in their lives when they're confused about what's going on. Looking forward to the feedback!