Here is how I would play it, Shoop. How control should be is done - not discussed. I would play it aloof and let her come to you after this meeting. At that point, you lay down the new rules.
Good luck!
That's generally how I was planning to play it, and yes the card was a foolish idea.
If she doesn't come back, meh so be it. It won't be the end of the world, but if we could work things out I'd go for it. Which is why I said I wasn't 100% over her. If I was 100% over her I wouldn't even think about getting back together with her.