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I'm there with you. What I've learned that it isn't that you're too nice. Women don't know how to phrase what they actually mean in this context.
Whether any of them want to admit it or not, they all want the alpha male. They don't necessarily want the jerk that tends to come attached to said personality, but they do want a guy who can show confidence, that can show that he can take charge. A guy who can stand on a mountain and beat his chest and scream really loud. These are all metaphors mind you, but really, they just want a real man. Being nice and not showing any other qualities shows a sign of weakness. Women are turned off by this in potential partners.
Sure, you would make a great friend, and that's all you've shown them. Being strictly nice doesn't build chemistry. Without having actually watched your dates, it's hard to say why else they want only one date. Maybe you faux pased. Maybe you said something really horrible. Maybe you farted?
I still think there's nothing wrong with being nice, but you need to find a way to build chemistry and do it fast. That's pretty much the only thing that has ever worked for me.
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