Wait, didn't you just propose to me a couple weeks ago? Should we go to the polyamory thread now?
Any man past the age of about 20 who is interested in a virgin (or is excited by the idea of a virgin, or considers one a 'score' or of higher value than a non-virgin) who isn't doing so from devout religious conviction is creepy. And I'm being generous with the devout religious caveat.
I second the arrogance, with the exception of some earlier posters that refused to participate (D_Lion and TP come to mind). Regardless of what you may have been led to believe up till now, there is not a great deal of trauma associated with losing one's virginity (unless it is lost in a traumatic way, i.e. abuse) and those are not magic wands between your legs with the power to drive women out of their minds with a mere touch (although I confess they are fun to play with).
Dating a virgin, male or female, is nothing more than dating someone with a different sexual history than you have. The reason female virginity is more highly regarded is, to some extent cultural, but is also about ego - being the first to break ground, so to speak. Most women prefer a man who already knows how to drive a stick shift. There's nothing I hate worse than a lot of granny-clutching and lurching around.
Fetishizing anything rather than seeing another individual as just an individual is creepy. Period.
BINGO!! Thanks for your post LBMM! Finally someone who talks past the ego carp.
Frankly I don't care if the man is a virgin or not but, not being a virgin myself anymore, I probably would prefer someone with experience since it's a lot easier than having to talk someone through all the motions and dealing with nerves. If you start out both as virgins together then the fun is in the pleasure of first time exploration but the garbage about breaking ground and all the other innuendo of being Alexander the Great and conquering new territory disgusts me. That's not what love is about and that is not what a person should be concentrating on. Also, if a woman is a virgin and you are not and you don't want to entertain the idea of starting something with a virgin, so what! What is your problem? Were we not all virgins at one time or another? The reasons for being a virgin in your 30s or 40s or even 50s could be as varied as the grains of sand on a beach and a person shouldn't be judged for keeping their virginity any more than they should be judged for sleeping with Tom, Dick or Harry. Life brings many surprises in the sexual arena as it does in all other aspects of our world.
Last edited by winn; November 3,2009 at 1:06am.
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