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You've done a good job of describing the fundamental rule "nobody truly wants what they can get for free".
Both sides of a relationship have to feel like they are working to earn something of value from the other. In addition to some degree of physical attraction, each must feel like they have to work a bit to earn what they want.
The hottie who whines to her fawning adorers that "there are no good men" is always drawn to a bad-boy who laughs at her princess act. She has to work to earn his respect.
Everyone has to play just a little bit hard-to-get. Each side of a match has to give the other something to "earn". In addition to the physical, this is a key part of how real "mutual attraction" comes to be.
29 factors of compatibility isn't the whole story.
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