Yes, but how do i get her to talk? What do i say? Plus i am also worried about saying the wrong things.
I've always found that women love talking about themselves. Ask simple questions about their job or their life.
- Is this a career you like?
- What do you most like about your job?
- What do you most hate?
- Oh, I heard you said it was stressful, why is it so stressful?
- What made you decide to move to where you live?
- Do you like it there?
- Where would you rather live?
And the list goes on and on. It is by no means a complete list. Just ask a question and start asking more questions based off of that, while interjecting your own commentary and personal experiences from time to time with a little humor and she will start feeling comfortable talking to you.
Obviously a lot of those questions are probably going to be answered before your first date or whatever due to communication through eharmony and outside of it. Just pay attention to what she says.
The most important thing is that it has to feel natural and smooth. It's ok to be a little nervous but you should get over that by the time the date is halfway over. I'm usually a nervous wreck but go in showing a lot of confidence to hide it. It seems to help women feel more at ease when they talk to me, which in turn makes me far less nervous than I really am.
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