I see the point that you are trying to make here, Hazmat. I can see how he would want to get on with his life, but I guess what I'm having trouble getting past is why lie about being divorced? I mean, had he explained it, she may very well have understood. I know I've had things explained to me that others may not have understood (not this kind of thing), but I did understand, and in those cases if I would have been asked to be patient with the situation and give the guy a chance, I would have done so in a heartbeat. Just my two cents.
Why did he lie about it ? (The following statements do
not mean that I condone lying ) Read through this thread and you'll see a good reason why. Look at all the people beating him up and judging him because he dared to show interest in a woman while still "legally" married. He's been separated for
3 years with the divorce papers filed, yet his life is still being run by a warped legal system and a spouse who seems to like drama. If the divorce is final now, then his story would seem to be true. Yeah, he made a mistake by lying, and he knew it. If the papers were already filed, he basically lied about
when it would be final. How many times should he apologize ?