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brneyedangel — Advice Member-Moderator Post #21 November 1,2009, 5:28pm

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hazmat wrote :

Duly noted.

I just don't feel life is so black and white. He didn't lie to cause harm, the guy just wants to get on with his life. I'm sure none of us has ever made a mistake and had to apologize for it.

He must like her (or the idea of her) quite a bit to continue trying. What a waste not to at least give it a cup of coffee.

I see the point that you are trying to make here, Hazmat. I can see how he would want to get on with his life, but I guess what I'm having trouble getting past is why lie about being divorced? I mean, had he explained it, she may very well have understood. I know I've had things explained to me that others may not have understood (not this kind of thing), but I did understand, and in those cases if I would have been asked to be patient with the situation and give the guy a chance, I would have done so in a heartbeat. Just my two cents.