I believe that he believed that "everything with his ex was final." Many people have already begun to sever the emotional ties with an ex long before the divorce proceedings are finalized. BUT until the divorce proceedings are finalized YOU ARE STILL MARRIED and THEREFORE, are NOT available to be in another relationship.
It takes a lot of time and energy to bring full closure (physical, emotional, and material) to a failed marriage. I believe the process of emotional closure can begin at the time of separation, but you cannot have complete closure until, at least, the legal proceedings are finished. (Some people are divorced for years and still do not have emotional closure.)
I would be less worried that he 'lied' about being divorced and more concerned that you would be a rebound relationship. Has he really had enough time to figure out what part he played in the failed marriage? or What to avoid the next time? or Is he just looking to be back in another relationship because it feels better than being alone?
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