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Let me drop my grain of salt here. Paperwork is paperwork, it takes time to sort-out, it can get nasty. That's a fact for some, less for others. What counts ultimately is the emotional side of it. The guy was done with his previous relationship, emotionally done, no comeback possible (in his words). His mishap was not to disclose that, alas, his divorce was not settled in Court. Fair call, he lied, or rather it can be seen as being economical with the truth? Everyone has lapses of judgement (I would have thrown the cards on the table, but hey, that's me) and on hindsight he should have been open about it, but you can see, also from his words, where he is coming from.
Ultimately, you would not know if there is even a relationship potential until you meet this guy face to face and move beyond e-mail/phone exchanges. That would give you the option to gauge if this has all the signals of systemic behavior or if it was simply an error of judgement (and who's free from them? In fact, that explains why some of us are here, eventually...) An error triggered by the fear you'd walk away.
I would say give it a chance. You've spend enough time investment already in him. That's for a reason. Follow that, and your instincts will tell in time whether its worth moving forward into a deeper level.
Just my 2c.
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