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This is a really great post. I have male friends whose divorces took a couple years (they were ugly, messy and horrible), however, they had been split a very long time ago and were "emotionally" done with they're marriages. For me, my time from separation to divorce was relatively short, only one year.
Every situation is different, the fact that he sent you the email explaining his particular circumstance says something. Everyone works in different ways, for some, once they are emotionally done, they don't need that piece of paper to move on. Others need that paper for closure.
In my experience, getting to know a person speaks volumes. My most recent first date had been officially divorced for several years, yet, he still spoke negatively about all of it. Needless to say, I ran for the hills. On the flip side, I once dated a man whose divorce was not final. I understood the circumstances and situation. I was lucky enough to have friends who had know him for years and gave insight to the information that he gave me, backed up his story, so to speak. Two months after we began dating, the divorce was final and the relationship lasted over a year.
All I can say is, don't be naive, yet, don't be too quick to jump to conclusions.
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